Thanks J! I think I feel a lot of what you felt when you first met the doctor. I’m taking a lot from your experience. I know what I’m feeling is normal. My feelings grow a little more each time we spend time together.
We are moving along nicely. No one is meeting anyone’s kids yet. We aren’t moving in together. We are dating. And dating can actually be fun!
I had a little over half the bottle of wine last night ...... no judgement
Glad I could help. It’s a process. Relax and have fun, no pressure. Be confident in yourself and let him come to you. The doc is such a good person that the more and more I feel us becoming closer friends as well. I just had her son all day and it just feels normal.
you're welcome and keep doing what you're doing, even though it's different. that's the point, right? you'll relax into this in no time, or you'll decide it wasn't what you really wanted. in the meantime, just go with the flow.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
On a side note a crazy OLD story. Remember that guy with the 3 kids I went on that date with back in October and he acted all weird and we never got together again even though he talked a good talk?
Brace yourselves. The census for the whole hospital comes up on my computer. And there he is in the ICU for sever alcohol withdrawal. I obviously couldn’t open the chart, but I can see the diagnosis. He is a raging alcoholic. I had no clue because he had 1 drink because he is a type one diabetic. I have a feeling he was an alcoholic before he got diagnosed and he went back to it. Unbelievable. It had me a little shook today.
A friend recently told me this, "Rejection is God's protection." Seems to ring true here.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Ginger - enjoy the wonder of new romance! Dating definitely should be fun!
I understand it can be scary. I think it’s best not to mind read. He asked you to be his girlfriend because he wanted to lock you down! To me, it doesn’t really matter why. He’s a big boy and he knows what he wants! You want to date him exclusively so you get what you want, too.
People always get something out there t a relationship and let’s face it, those things are often subjective. And in a good relationship each side gives things. So long as you are getting what you want and he is giving what you want and vice versa, all is well.
The age thing can go both ways. After watching my ex struggle with aging, I would prefer a guy to who is a bit older to limit the chance that he is in that MLC window. I know it’s not really rational but that is my choice.
Enjoy being treasured!!!
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
Thank you hawho! It’s been pretty nice so far. I’m happy.
He calls me daily, and wants to see me often. If we are both free on the weekend, it’s like a given he wants to spend time with me. If I’m not working Saturday we are going to go to NYC for the day. And he wants to hang out the night before. I was dating M for a year and he pretty much only gave me a few hours on a weekend. One night sleep over is all and gone the next morning . I get we all have stuff to do, I had a heck of a lot more than him, but he was just so detached.
You can tell he is a relationship kind of guy. Which I do like. He likes to have that person to do stuff together with.
I think m relationships get a little refined after divorce and kids and stuff. It’s a little more simple for me. Someone to spend time with, hang out with, cuddle with, and talk to. We have that going on. It’s good. I like where we are right now
I'm SO glad for you! Keep on keeping on. I'm sure it is scary to have something that seems to be exactly what you have been asking for and hoping for all along and not knowing for sure where it is headed. It is like waiting for the other shoe to drop. That can be tough. But, he seems like a decent guy and you are awesome, so I wish nothing but the best for both of you.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
