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Re: And we keep moving on. [Re: Irish M] #2918593
05/06/21 05:49 AM
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Irish, I've never tuned into your situation, but I am now. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Take care.


May'19 - separation. | Dec'19, Oct'20, Jan'21 - painful breakups. | Jan'21 - freedom!
"We the ones who play hard, we live hard, we love hard, we light up the dark." -- Kesha

Re: And we keep moving on. [Re: Irish M] #2918610
05/06/21 03:20 PM
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My condolences Irish.

Having both your parents pass is heart wrenching. Yet to pass within minutes of each other does have a level of comfort. Together in this life and now on to next, together.

I am glad you and your brother are on the mend. My goodness, what a hellish time to endure. And you sound like much more than just enduring it. You my dear Irish will pick up the pieces and continue. You are that kind of man.

My thoughts have been with you since reading your post. I suspect much of the needed efforts when love ones leave this mortal realm have been completed or are underway. The following steps, the leading, continuing to live and move forward will ease from its present struggle.

I imagine your daughters were quite worried with all falling ill. Their sadness, joy, relief, sorrow will be confusing for a while I suspect. I know they are strong and stable and capable. For I know their Dad and he is quite a role model.

Their Mom, XW, is a very lost soul. Still, she is incapable of empathy or reaching out. It is little wonder that she could not console or comfort the girls during this time. She is running. She cannot even console herself, never mind anyone else. Such a sad and lost woman.

I do understand and empathize with the bitterness and hatred towards XW expressed by the girls. Their feelings are valid, necessary, healthy, and a very needed part of their grief and loss. Irish, it falls to you, to inspire them to let go and be better not bitter. Forgiving and compassionate.

That is nothing new. You are an amazing Dad. And you and the girls will (and still) flourish; I have no doubt.

My deepest condolences to you and yours.

D


Now: Me53 XW49 S24 S22 S20 D19

Oct 8/17-BD, Moves in w/OM, Leaves Kids
Me49 W46 S20 S19 S16 D15
M26 T29
Dec 9/17-Legal Separation
Oct 3/18-W Files
Apr 6/19-Divorced

Love the Sinner, Forgive the Sin.
Re: And we keep moving on. [Re: Irish M] #2918627
05/06/21 07:43 PM
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my dear friend I am so very deeply sorry to read this post from you! yes, your parents are together and that is the only blessing here. What a horrible, horrible tragedy for your family. I am happy that you and your brother are recovering well and that everyone else in your household is ok.

as for your MLCr ... no words.


M 20+ T25+
S 15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
H moved out 4/24/15
D Final 12/23/16

Everyone is doing the best they can, even if it's a lousy job.
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So very sorry for your loss, Irish. This is truly heartbreaking news. Thank goodness you, your brother and your kids are okay.


Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced
Re: And we keep moving on. [Re: Irish M] #2918633
05/07/21 03:33 AM
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Im so sorry for your loss, Irish. This is such a tragic and heartbreaking story. I hope you and the girls are doing ok in processing this grief.


Me- 30's H- 40's
T-10 M-5
I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15
D filed by H: September 16
Re: And we keep moving on. [Re: Irish M] #2918653
05/07/21 08:36 PM
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Dear Irish,

You don't know me but I just wanted to express my deepest respect and condolences
for the recent loss of your parents.

Take care...


Me (43) H (42)
M:14 T:18, S16, S13 & S13
4/19 BD1 ILYB & OW1 until 02/20
02/20-08/20 Home
08/20 Moves abroad for W
12/20 BD2 wants divorce, I agree (possible OW2)
02/21 I file since no action from H
Re: And we keep moving on. [Re: Irish M] #2918654
05/07/21 11:38 PM
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So sorry buddy.

Take care.

Tad


Currently:
M 53 XW 54
Sons 34,30,28,26

The Sitch:
Married 26 years
EA w/ OM 9/10
Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary)
Sep 12/10
She wants D 1/11
W files 5/11
D final 10/11
XW marries OM 6/13
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