Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 9 of 11 1 2 7 8 9 10 11
Joined: Jun 2005
Posts: 2,265
Likes: 58
D
Member
Offline
Member
D
Joined: Jun 2005
Posts: 2,265
Likes: 58
Originally Posted by LH19
To be honest with you I think you did just fine. I would have been ok if you slept with him.

Well of course you would! Coming from the guy who’s doing Friday, Saturday, Sunday weekends on date 4.

Originally Posted by Ginger1
Don- you give off that love avoidant vibe. I thought holding hands is just a sweet gesture which I happen to love. And putting my head on his shoulder isn’t crying love either.


LMAO. This has NOTHING to do with love avoidant at all. In fact many love avoidants will come on strong in the early goings. It’s part of the syndrome. However what you describe I relate more with early love and infatuation not second dates. Might just be me but nothing to do with LA


DonH
Midwest
Me 56
WAW-EXW 55
Met 11/95 / Married 5/00
Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06
4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
Joined: Jun 2015
Posts: 6,119
Likes: 408
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: Jun 2015
Posts: 6,119
Likes: 408
Originally Posted by LH19
Lol. Prudes.


Well, YES!
And there's nothing wrong with that.


M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver
Joined: Oct 2014
Posts: 3,401
Likes: 111
D
Member
Offline
Member
D
Joined: Oct 2014
Posts: 3,401
Likes: 111
Originally Posted by bttrfly
Originally Posted by LH19
Lol. Prudes.


Well, YES!
And there's nothing wrong with that.


Amen, sister! Not the first time I’ve been called that and won’t be the last. I wear it proudly.


Me 52, H53
Bomb drop 9/29/2014
Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships)
6 grandkids
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 9,227
Likes: 309
L
Member
Offline
Member
L
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 9,227
Likes: 309
So Dawn and BF just so I am aware. In your opinion how long should a woman wait?

Joined: Oct 2014
Posts: 3,401
Likes: 111
D
Member
Offline
Member
D
Joined: Oct 2014
Posts: 3,401
Likes: 111
I think that’s a very personal choice. I don’t think there is a magic number. For me, I have to be comfortable with someone and I have to know that I’m the only one because I’m not interested in sleeping with someone who is sleeping with 3 or 4 or however many others. For me, it is usually at least 5 dates and lots of texts and phone conversations in the interim. I’m just not a casual sex person. Not that there is anything wrong with that, mind you...just isn’t what I’m into. Now,, to your point, if 2 consenting adults are feeling it, then they should act on it whether it is date 1, 10, or 100. That’s their business. My comments were not based on the fact that I didn’t think G should sleep with dude on 2nd date if she was ready, but more to the point that she was saying one thing and doing something else. I do think, in general, when sex is involved, feelings are mixed up in it for women. Now I am sure some women will say oh no, I can do no strings sex, but in general, I don’t think that’s a natural setting for women. Of course there are exceptions to that.


Me 52, H53
Bomb drop 9/29/2014
Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships)
6 grandkids
Joined: Mar 2016
Posts: 3,952
D
Member
Offline
Member
D
Joined: Mar 2016
Posts: 3,952

I think the important thing is that you don't want to be perceived as promiscuous. If you're put in the category of an easy lay, then you probably won't have long term prospects with the person you're dating.

Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 9,227
Likes: 309
L
Member
Offline
Member
L
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 9,227
Likes: 309
Do you really think that a 40-50 year old woman in 2020 has to worry about being labeled as promiscuous?

Joined: Mar 2016
Posts: 3,952
D
Member
Offline
Member
D
Joined: Mar 2016
Posts: 3,952
Originally Posted by LH19
Do you really think that a 40-50 year old woman in 2020 has to worry about being labeled as promiscuous?

There are a bunch of husbands in the newcomers forum that would answer "yes" to your question.

Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 9,227
Likes: 309
L
Member
Offline
Member
L
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 9,227
Likes: 309
D,

I’m not talking about a married woman. Single and available.

Joined: Aug 2015
Posts: 1,142
Likes: 5
P
Member
Offline
Member
P
Joined: Aug 2015
Posts: 1,142
Likes: 5
Originally Posted by LH19
D,

I’m not talking about a married woman. Single and available.


It would give me pause for a relationship, yes without a doubt. That's just me though

Page 9 of 11 1 2 7 8 9 10 11

Moderated by  Cadet, DnJ, job, Michele Weiner-Davis 

Link Copied to Clipboard