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Understood. I’m more laid back in that department.


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I may have also told J he can give you my email.

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Well, in the beginning it started out that you’re dating an insecure person (who also seems to be co-dependent) that would be devastated if you’re just in it for the sex.. But yet here we are, a couple of weeks? Later and you’ve had weekend stay overs but yet you still don’t know what she wants..

Just be honest,triple H is fine as long as both parties agree, but you don’t know what she wants.. which leads me to believe she doesn’t know what you want


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I sense some NGS tendencies here. If you are being honest and not doing anything to hurt her intentionally that's all you can do. If she gets hurt because of her emotional issues, you really cannot control that. Stop trying to guess what she may have meant by her words and actions. It was clear she wanted to sleep with you on the first date from what you said. Yet, you were initially worried about hurting her if you slept with her. You need to let go of that sort of thinking. She is an adult and you don't need to protect her - realize that not protecting her is different from not hurting her

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M,

I hear what you are saying but I have seen really great women on this board get hurt and I'm sorry I do not want to hurt someone if it can be avoided.

If I'm guilty of anything it's not living in the moment and trying to predict the future.


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Originally Posted by MLCxH
I sense some NGS tendencies here. If you are being honest and not doing anything to hurt her intentionally that's all you can do.


Youre sense is off.. being upfront about what you want is far away from NGS..


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Originally Posted by LH19
M,

I hear what you are saying but I have seen really great women on this board get hurt and I'm sorry I do not want to hurt someone if it can be avoided.

If I'm guilty of anything it's not living in the moment and trying to predict the future.


I understand but you have already been upfront about what you are expecting. If she reads between the lines and gets hurt there is not much you can do. Stop guessing and as you said stop trying to predict the future and enjoy the present.

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M,

I am enjoying the present. I’m about as good as a spot as I have been in the last 5 years. Still working some things out and figuring out what I want out of life.

I have been open and honest with her about everything thus far. In my experiences in life I try leave everyone wanting more. So the onus is also going to be on her to have me wanting more.

I appreciate your input.

On a side note I had to got to a wake yesterday and was talking to my sister in law. One of her friends walk away husbands asked to reconcile after 15 years of divorce. They are going to give it a shot. I guess you never know.


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I hope you get your shot buddy.


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J,

Though I’m confident the opportunity will present itself at some point, it is becoming clearer to me it will not happen. Right now I am just looking for her to not effect my life in anyway. It’s come to my attention this weekend that she’s forcing people to choose sides while continue to date the friend of my friend. Everyone is choosing my side including a family member so I’m guessing that is going to build more resentment from her. I have to many conditions that are likely to not be met for me to reconcile.

Date 5 (I think) set for tonight. Just dinner at a restaurant. No sexy time unless something weird happens lol. She pulled way back the weekend with contact so she’s either losing interest or slowing it down which was actually refreshing for me.


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