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Re: The Misadventures of OLD for LH VII [Re: LH19] #2881495
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Glad your date went well, LH. I have enjoyed all the posts from yesterday, as I'm catching up. Y'all just fascinate me. G said she wished she were a guy sometime and I'm reading what y'all are saying thinking thank the lord I'm not a guy. LOL Sadly (or maybe not so sadly, depending on which side you are looking at it from), I think men are held to a higher standard, particularly by other men. The messages right before mine prove that. LH reports on a girl that sent 2 messages: hello then goodbye. J9's first question is "was she hot?" That made me literally laugh out loud. I mean, seriously, if I were going to ask LH a question about this girl, that probably wouldn't have even made the top 10 list of things I would've asked.

I think the observation a few posts back about the negativity surrounding porn is super interesting and I would've never thought about that, but it does give men a certain look for women and anyone outside that look doesn't stand much of a chance. Men won't let their friends by with dating a nice girl who is fat or who is successful or who is anything other than a 10 without really harassing them, but women are much more forgiving of a man having thinning hair or carrying extra weight or whatever. I just find it all fascinating. Totally one of those men are from Mars and women are from Venus things.

Sorry for the hijack, LH, but again, congrats on the good date. Hope you enjoy another soon!


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Re: The Misadventures of OLD for LH VII [Re: LH19] #2881537
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Ok! So we got that she stayed the night and glad that you got some LH, but you've been sparse about other details of the date.

So, what did you like about her? How was this date different now that the first one was out of the way? What kind of personality does she have? etc etc.. you know the line of questioning.

you said she's a bit insecure. what was that all about?

c'mon, let's hear it all


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Re: The Misadventures of OLD for LH VII [Re: LH19] #2881556
01/20/20 08:03 PM
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So I have actually been thinking about this a lot today and I think a lot has to do with expectations. So building up to the first date we had great texting rapport and I had saw 5 pictures of her where she looked super cute. So after the first meeting I found her attractive but not super cute as I had expected. Lets face it everyone uses their best pictures and Ive learned by now no one lives up to their pics. Also I never saw her body in the pics and her body ended up being not what I expected. Not bad at all just not what I pictured. More athletic then petite which I am use to.

So second date comes and now my expectations are lower and she shows up and comes walking in and the first thing I thought was wow shes better looking then I thought (weird right?)So there is the physical for you.

She very sweet! She was very grateful for me cooking dinner and was very complementary of everything including my house. Shes very smart and has a passion to start her own business and flip houses. Shes very affectionate and knows how to use her hands in a non sexual way.

Shes been burned by her husband and a boy friend of two years and I think its done some damage and understandably so for sure. She questioned me about pulling away after our first date which shes right I did so we talked about my need to go slow.

Im just taking it one day at a time and seeing what happens.


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Re: The Misadventures of OLD for LH VII [Re: LH19] #2881561
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Originally Posted by LH19
She very sweet! She was very grateful for me cooking dinner and was very complementary of everything including my house. Shes very smart and has a passion to start her own business and flip houses. Shes very affectionate and knows how to use her hands in a non sexual way.
This reminds me of a buddy's Tinder date in Manhattan this past summer.

The woman he was out with waited until date #2 to hit him up for $150K to "bring her collection over from Paris".... I don't believe he even got laid. Didn't pass over any money either.


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Re: The Misadventures of OLD for LH VII [Re: LH19] #2881562
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Well Andy P you know 150k Canadian is like $20 American so I probably would of gave it to her.

Most women will sleep with you on date number 2 or 3 so your buddy needs to up his game.


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Re: The Misadventures of OLD for LH VII [Re: LH19] #2881572
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So second date comes and now my expectations are lower and she shows up and comes walking in and the first thing I thought was wow shes better looking then I thought (weird right?)


I had the same experience with CMM. Our first coffee date I thought he was kind of underwhelming - but I also can realize looking back that he was kind of nervous. Our first "real" date he wore a black mock turtleneck and somehow looked much handsomer in that; also he was less nervous so came off as more attractive. (A few dates later, when I discovered he's kind of a genius in bed, of course he became much more attractive lol).

Re: The Misadventures of OLD for LH VII [Re: LH19] #2881578
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Not weird L....you will probably waiver about 15 more times through the process smile


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Re: The Misadventures of OLD for LH VII [Re: LH19] #2881585
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Lol. I can imagine.


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Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you and stay.- Will Smith
Re: The Misadventures of OLD for LH VII [Re: LH19] #2881985
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So L......what's the 411????? Is there a 3rd date planned?


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Re: The Misadventures of OLD for LH VII [Re: LH19] #2881993
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Youve gone very very quiet.....

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