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I know G.....she is just starting to reach out more and more for assistance. After the advance on CS convo she texted me later asking me questions about how to hook up her surround sound on her TV. Can't your BF figure that out for you???? Then, a couple of weeks ago she is asking my advice on what she should do to reduce her internet and tv bills. Again, can't he provide you with that support?

Anyway it just doesn't make sense sometimes.


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You were a useful appliance that she knew where all the knobs were and how they worked. New BF probably isn't as familiar a tool.

This is starting to veer into the "you fired me from that job - figure it out" territory.


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Lol - I’m sure BF is a “tool”, just not a useful one!

Send her a link to the Mr Money Mustache forum - sounds like she’s dug herself a financial hole and needs some ninja frugality to find her way out.

It’s rotten because you want your kids to be ok so she’s got you over a barrel.

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LOL....yes, unfortunately she does and I am going to have to manage it for the next 7 to 8 years the best I can. She was never good with money and is the type of person that will spend it if she has it. We never really had money issues in our marriage but at one point she made me put her on an allowance. I am a saver by nature so at times it was a conflict and frustrating. Now she is on her own so it is really her issue to figure out.

I don't really have much to report. It will be 1 yr for the Dr, and I on Thursday. We are going out to dinner and I will send her some flowers to her office. We are kid free essentially this weekend as well and have a fundraiser to go to on Friday night so that will be fun.

Other than that not much else going on, my daughters won their games this weekend. I am 3-0 as my youngest's basketball coach with 5 games left in the season hopefully we can go undefeated!!


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Congrats on the one year mark TBS!!! And also on your girls’ victories!! Sounds like it’s been a great week!!! (((HUGS)))

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One year mark huh? Wow. How do you feel?


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Thanks D, it was definitely a good week!! I enjoy coaching their teams as it gives me an opportunity to see my girls on the weeks I don't have them.

Hey M......I feel great, the possibilities are endless! It has been a journey for sure!


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What a journey J9! Congrats on the anniversary!


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Thank Nef, it has been one hell of a ride!


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There’s something to be said about the walkaways that screw around on their spouses and then need money and favors. This is opposite but the same.. I keep getting asked to hold off on cashing my CS support checks! There is a basic selfishness and irresponsibility that comes with people capable of doing what they did. Don’t help her, she’s just using you or she’s trying to sabatoge your new relationship in a really sneaky way. I agree with Andrew. She fired you and it will only cause hurt feelings with The Dr. because she’s not asking her ex for favors. I think women like your ex are sneaky.


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