Let her go have fun in New Orleans. If you feel the urge to contact her during her trip, fight it. If she reaches out to you, keep it short.
Very wise words.
Things that work are counter intuitive.
Enthusiastically telling her to a have a great time, being excited that she is going, and truly meaning it, is where you should mentally be. Your body language, vocal tone, words and beliefs should be in alignment. How do you get to that point? Can you?
Do not let fear control you. What you fear will manifest. Control and confront your fears.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
My wife is going to New Orleans with two of her girlfriends next week for four days and I'm dreading it but I know it can do her some good.
Well, the decision to give her 4 day’s space or not on this trip is out of your hands. You do control whether you pressure her with text/calls checking up on her, asking for decisions/reassurances, etc. In retrospect, when my partner and I were on the rocks and she went away on a vacation, I wish I’d called/texted with 1-2 fun messages/day instead of what I did do!
