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It is committed, that reference is meant to mean just focusing on having fun and not getting bogged down by heavy R talks, discussing our future together, etc. Just enjoying her company, having fun, etc.

I don't think either one of us expected this to happen so we both are not in any rush, we are just going with it and having fun.


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Well, see...there you go. Learned something new today. Following your explanation, Sparky and I are all about the 3 H's. wink We don't really spend a lot of time in the bogged down details or seriousness, though, since we are merging households and getting married in a few months, we do occasionally have to have serious discussions. Thanks for the response. This is why I love this board....always learning new things.


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I know it's been a bit but I don't have much to update and life is just clicking by. I have not been on the board too much and I am starting feel the desire to post become less and less. I guess in many ways I feel myself truly starting to move on.

My girls are doing great. I am in the middle of soccer season for my oldest and my youngest is getting ready to start basketball. The school year is also just flying by! Still hitting the gym and doing my thing. My parents have been in town for several weeks it has been nice to have them at the house. The Dr. and I are still together, we talk every day, see each other about 3 times per week. I met her mom, sister and XH for the first time. No issues and our R is just very boring. She met my parents and we are gradually spending more time together with the kids as well. Nothing over the top but just dinners, get togethers, etc. and they all seem to get along. No sleepovers yet but the kids are starting to ask.

All for now.


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I may be in the minority here, but I think boring is good. I am a creature of habit, so routine and boring are words that are right up my alley. It signifies no drama. wink


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I agree with you dawn! I would love to have boring with a guy. Nothing I want more.

Life sounds great. Moving on is good.

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That's a great update. I second Dawn's comment. Tell us more about meeting Dr.s XH, how did that go and what was he like?


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You all are right, there is no drama. The only issues I have had to work through where internally with myself.

Her XH was fine. She introduced me to him at her son's birthday party. We shook hands, he asked me about my girls, I told him it was nice to meet him, and that was it. When the girls and I left I shook his hand again and that was it. No drama and I didn't get into conversations with him.

My impressions.........he is a true Texan, a country boy, just as tall as me with a gut smile. Good looking though, like I could tell 15 years ago when he was in shape he would have been a really good looking guy. You could tell though he was arrogant, pompous, and had a high opinion of himself. Confident but according to the Dr. he had no follow through and only spoke a good game. My dad was at the birthday party as well and spoke to him for quite some time. He commented to me afterwards that he could tell why they didn't work out. After the party, several days later, he texted the Dr. and told her that I seemed like a nice guy.

I am very laid back and chill so dudes like that don't bother me. No drama though, he asked about my girls and that was it.


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Originally Posted by TBSakaJ9
You could tell though he was arrogant, pompous, and had a high opinion of himself.


Funny, that is what Arkansans usually say about ALL Texans. LOL


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Haha....well I guess it's a good thing I am not a true Texan although my daughters are......


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Thanks for the update J9. Just change boring for routine...;-)

Hugs for you and the girls!


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