Question now that I have initiated a little touching now and then at concert. And her with the back popping thing. Is this something I continue. Slight touching now and then? Trying to build a little tension. Or do I go back to letting her initiate?
For now, I would let her initiate.
You initiate when it is natural. Leading her through a crowd. Leaning in to talk when it is loud.
"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Persevere = happily being patient over a long period of time
One thing I always do. When we are walking in a parking lot or on a sidewalk, I will"guide" her to walk on the inside of me, away from the car traffic (in a lot), or away from the for traffic coming the other way. She feels taken care of when I do that.
M(50), W(51),D(15) M-20, T-22 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Iím trying to keep my head level. Things have been going really well. As in really well. At the same time she Bd me and she still makes a conscious decision to not say I love you and she may be msging somebody else.
Itís hard to make those things mix in my head. I think Iím still failing at gal. I think I need to try harder. Iím also still too attached I think. Thatís why there is so much angst I believe
I guess in that light you are right CW. It just doesnít seem like much compared to others on here.
Maybe I could have so help understanding something. I had really thought I had put these feelings behind me. There is a reason I changed my thread name to onward and upward. Cause most of the time thatís where it seems like Iím headed. Ever since the concert 1 week ago. We have had physical contact several times. A few hand on the backs a few front to front hug type back poppings. A hand massage here and there. A back rub last night. Which I may have accidentally later on a little thick. Maybe. Iím not sure. Itís so small. But itís a good thing. And I feel like crap I actually got teary eyed earlier. Itís like an improvement makes me sad. I know this is a long road. And Iím only 2.5 months in. But itís hard to be still.
R2C just saw yours so Iím editing this to reply.
She was wincing. Her back is in constant pain. She sat down beside me on porch. I just reached over and started. She was enjoying it (easy to tell). I worked my way down her her arm to her hand. I was there for a bit and then she said ďI have to go put S in bedĒ. And got up and left. Whole massage lasted maybe 5 min. She didnít initiate. I guess my bad