Thank you Job & Barb H, I've got a number to call for IC. Just need to dial, but feel more comfortable waiting until friend is gone. I tell her & everyone will know. I'm not ready. My friends are like family. I rather wait until my friend is gone to go to IC.
Re other professional help, yikes. Scary to think about. One hurtle at a time.
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
H replied back to the before & after pis of D3s room; The A/C water leak. His reply: What happened? Are you two okay?
It's the middle of the night here, just after 2am.
I'll reply now because I have time. But I'll give it a few more minutes.
Nothing new with banking. I'm not asking him about it. I'm sure he knows I'm looking, that's normal. But me not reaction to it will be different. Not saying a thing to him.
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
This process takes a long time for us to understand..It is a big shocker and adjustment Take your time
The Lawyer is a scary appointment, but remember it is just to get information H will never know..This is for you
IC will be confidental and on your side..like a best friend they listen and give some guidance if we ask for it-
When I got a free consult, with my friends L, I was so empowered..no longer as afraid of what might happen
Please never make any agreements with the MLCer, without knowing your legal rights
I have a friend who trusted her MLCer XH and he took everything she was really left with nothing-and she never got any legal advise-
I get what you are saying about the banking and do whatever you feel is best for now-- At least he responded and shows his caring for your well being-and he is ok
hang in
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
I replied to H, in 2 messages. We're okay & then details on what happened.
Actually 3 messages. I ended with, Hope you're okay.
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
Going to get a pedi with my friend. D3 at daycare for the day.
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
Good for you CanBird! My first appointment was intimidating as I didn't know what to expect. Tried a couple of therapist before finding my "perfect fit". It has helped me out immeasurably-and I wish the same for you. Enjoy the pedi!
I've become a bit of a princess (was a tomboy). I've discovered I really enjoy makeovers, makeup lessons, pedicures and general pampering! Have fun.
Me: 57 H:60 Married: 25 yrs DB #1 June 4/19 "I love you forever" June 14/19 DB#2: June 19/19 ILYBINILWY
Good for you CanBird! My first appointment was intimidating as I didn't know what to expect. Tried a couple of therapist before finding my "perfect fit". It has helped me out immeasurably-and I wish the same for you. Enjoy the pedi!
I've become a bit of a princess (was a tomboy). I've discovered I really enjoy makeovers, makeup lessons, pedicures and general pampering! Have fun.
Thanks BarbH. Therapist called back during dinner, I took my call to another room, said it was work. I asked to talk after my guest leaves; we should be able to sort something out. House calls are available too.
My toes look great. Had a fun morning with my friend & had a D3 play date after her daycare.
Tomorrow night is a girls night out! Live music outdoors & dancing. D3 sleeping over a friends house. Looking forward to unleashing my inner gypsy. (She usually dances in the kitchen or living room.)
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
I am very happy that you made an IC appointment for you. You need someone IRL that can listen and help you work through things. Enjoy your girls night out!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
remember your 3 year old D will see all of this and she will learn through you to take care of herself to talk and heal in therapy if needed to make the best choices for her children as well-
They learn from us
Please make the L appointment as well- you will gain insight and power
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
An automatic depoist was made by H work. Usually the pay stub comes via mail shortly after the deposit. When that comes, I'm curious to see if vacation time was taken off.
The last pay stub was Aug (1-15) indicated 48 hrs.
So maybe H took a little time out for himself. It seems so. If so, I hope he enjoyed it. Explains the online purchases made in June. Certain clothing items he didn't have at work. I know what he ordered, just don't know where he went. Not even a postcard? Geez. Kidding!
I was starting to think all sorts of things.... a secret bank account, new address...so he took a trip. He's in MLC. I hope he did whatever his heart desired. Obviously I'm hopeful there's no cheating involved. But he's been a man at sea for over 4 months. I'm sure something happened. Hope for his sake he used protection. Only he knows the truth.
September is almost over. Usually he finishes the season October-November. Tick tock!
Ps- Had an amazing night out. New job starts Tuesday.
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
