I keep doing more and more things with my children. This has been good for me and them. I have always been a good dad, but I am living with so much more purpose than I have in a the past couple of years.
Great, that's an excellent attitude! You do your thing and let her go on her journey. The hand-holding and terms of endearment, those are baby steps so that's awesome! Don't get overly excited but hey, any progress should give you hope! Keep it up!
Me: 58 w/ S16, D22, D25 Current R: 4 years Previous M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:56
Destroyd, I didn't get to read all of your thread yet but you have to wonder why a spouse such as your wife has to pull away rather than turn to you for support during this 'lost' phase. It sounds like you're headed in the right direction and it's admirable of you to be there for your kids.
I haven't posted recently, because there isn't much new in my situation. My wife and I get along 95% of the time. We seem to enjoy each other's company, and we do stuff together quite frequently. However, I am still scared that I am in the friend zone versus reconciling. My wife has days where she is quite warm and days where she is distant. For the life of me I can't tell what causes the different moods. I guess it is whatever is going through her head.
Yesterday, she was talking to me about how our lives are too busy. She just seems so overwhelmed with life. I don't know how to help her through this. I don't know if there is anything I can do. I resent that our weekends aren't much fun. I work very hard throughout the week in a stressful job with lots of responsibility. I need to have some fun on the weekends. All that she seems to care about is working out. I want her to workout, but that can't be all there is to life.