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I keep doing more and more things with my children. This has been good for me and them. I have always been a good dad, but I am living with so much more purpose than I have in a the past couple of years.


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Great, that's an excellent attitude! You do your thing and let her go on her journey. The hand-holding and terms of endearment, those are baby steps so that's awesome! Don't get overly excited but hey, any progress should give you hope! Keep it up!


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Destroyd, I didn't get to read all of your thread yet but you have to wonder why a spouse such as your wife has to pull away rather than turn to you for support during this 'lost' phase. It sounds like you're headed in the right direction and it's admirable of you to be there for your kids.

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Hello all,

I haven't posted recently, because there isn't much new in my situation. My wife and I get along 95% of the time. We seem to enjoy each other's company, and we do stuff together quite frequently. However, I am still scared that I am in the friend zone versus reconciling. My wife has days where she is quite warm and days where she is distant. For the life of me I can't tell what causes the different moods. I guess it is whatever is going through her head.

Yesterday, she was talking to me about how our lives are too busy. She just seems so overwhelmed with life. I don't know how to help her through this. I don't know if there is anything I can do. I resent that our weekends aren't much fun. I work very hard throughout the week in a stressful job with lots of responsibility. I need to have some fun on the weekends. All that she seems to care about is working out. I want her to workout, but that can't be all there is to life.


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D,

Part of it is what’s on her mind and part of it is stress and part of it is hormones.

Why do you need her to have fun?

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My wife has good days and bad days too. Most have here but it doesn't bother me anymore. Just like the good days don't give me any hope or expectations which they used to.

That's the great thing about this forum. I don't know where I would be without it


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Why do they have these good days and bad days?

What does that mean?

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My wife has good days and bad days too. Most have here but it doesn't bother me anymore. Just like the good days don't give me any hope or expectations which they used to.

That's the great thing about this forum. I don't know where I would be without it

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It means they are human.

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Hello all,

It has been months since I have posted. I just needed to step away for my mental health. I apologize to all of the great people who were trying to help me that I just abandoned. I had to do it for me.

Well, after 13 months of standing for my marriage I finally discovered that my wife has been having an emotional affair this whole time. This explains so much. She is in love with another man. I will update you all on my story.


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Destroyd, welcome back. Looking forward to your update. Sorry about the EA, but it is not surprising. Further, it isn't the end of the world. Just keep DBing, it doesn't change a thing.

Remember, my W was in an EA too. You can turn things around.


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