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That's a great result with the lady Mikey - good work mate!


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Just journaling a bit, but I'm amazed at how much I have changed over the last 10 months. Going from being miserable, terrible with finances, lost and confused to now happy as can be, doing very well with the finances, and knowing exactly what direction and where I want to go. I know I wasn't as active on here as some others going through the same as I spent so much energy on myself but i make it a point to check in and do some regular reading because this place has really helped me with this complete transformation. My personallity has changed for the better and I like where things are going, I still have more work to do but my life has greatly improved since the first few months after BD.


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Married 2yrs
ILYBNILWY 11/23/18
EA Discovered 3/20/19

In House separation 11/26/18 - 11/29/18 & 1/10/19-3/20/19
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Nice work, Mikey! You are an inspiration!

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Great update Mikey! Congrats on building a new life for yourself and on all the improvements!


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Good to read man. Keep doing what works Mikey!


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Just realized it's been over a month now since I've posted any updates. There hasn't been a whole lot going on lately. My lawyer has been kinda dragging her feet a bit, it been over 2 months since hiring and nothing, literally nothing was done yet. Started to apply some pressure and now things are getting ready to get moving. The stbxw will be getting served soon.

Financially I've been getting by, haven't put much focus into savings at the moment as I am putting a lot of focus on rebuilding my credit after the slump from last year. In the last 2 months alone my score has gone up almost 60 points. Plan is to get my credit in good enough shape to where I can refinance my car and greatly lower my payment and interest rate. I've gotten a lot of old debt payed off and removed from my report. So once I'm good there I'll have a decent amount of extra income to set aside.

Other than that, I've been working a lot and taking up any overtime that's being offered to help get myself in nice and stable financially. And just overall keeping myself busy. I've signed back up for a gym membership offered through my employer that gives me access to many gyms and will begin going again.

Overall, things are going well. smile


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ILYBNILWY 11/23/18
EA Discovered 3/20/19

In House separation 11/26/18 - 11/29/18 & 1/10/19-3/20/19
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Keep it up MikeyB!

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Just chiming back in with the latest.

Things continue to be going well for me. Works been great, I work with a great group of people (there is 10 of us out of the about 300 that work our shift) that know the job is hard and frustrating but can still have fun. Last Friday we all wore matching t-shirts for RED (Remember Everyone Deployed) Friday that had a saying "You Know What I Mean" on the back. It's a phrase our boss says after almost every sentence. He loved the surprise and got a good laugh out of it and wore the shirt we made for him too lol. It caught a lot of peoples attention and our AGM had a group picture taken of us. I'm still taking up a lot of overtime at the moment, working between 50-60ish hours a week right now.

As for gal, with work I haven't had much time for things but I did go to a concert with a friend on Sunday and had a blast. Still doing well enough with the finances and getting a lot of debt paid off which is showing in many ways. Also going to be started back up some schooling, just waiting to hear back on my enrollment.

As for D, still waiting on my lawyer. Stopped by again on Monday to make my payment (Almost done paying that, for now at least as long as things don't get overly complicated) and was told she'd be giving me a call soon.


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Together 12yrs
Married 2yrs
ILYBNILWY 11/23/18
EA Discovered 3/20/19

In House separation 11/26/18 - 11/29/18 & 1/10/19-3/20/19
W Moved out 3/20/19
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Hey everyone!

It's been a while since I've posted anything, my schedule has been insanely crazy between peak holiday season and then the whole corona virus thing going on work has been very busy. (In which I hope everyone is staying safe and sane).

In general things have been going very well for me the last few months, my app saw a burst of success at the beginning of the year. Like I said above work has been busy so I've picked up tons of overtime, I've been making great strides on rebuilding my credit, managed to refinance my car I got last year and lower my payments quite a bit while keeping the same amount of payments remaining.

I've also been putting myself out there more now, and have talked to and met a few woman but things didn't really match up between us until about a week ago when I met someone in which we have so many things in common it's almost scary, way more then me and the STBX (more on that later). But it's been an absolute joy talking with her. Something I never really had with the STBX.

As for things with the STBX, she really tried to do a number on me. My attorney and her were discussing how we would proceed and once she realized I was serious about making her pay her share of the bills she had gone and filed herself and didn't have me served but instead went to the paper saying she didn't know where to find me. While she doesn't know where I live, I've had the same job for 13 years and can easily have had me served there. Anyway, I had caught the notice in the paper thanks to my mom with less then a week to respond to the court in which I contacted my attorney and we got a response filled and a counter petition. I've also told my attorney I am done trying to be reasonable and now I will be making this real pricey for her as I'm done tolerating her crap.

But anyway, I'm making my way to the greener pasture and everything is looking up. I'll be getting together this weekend with the girl I met and were going to spend some time together and just see how it all goes from there.

Hope everyone stays safe out there, it's some crazy times for sure.


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Married 2yrs
ILYBNILWY 11/23/18
EA Discovered 3/20/19

In House separation 11/26/18 - 11/29/18 & 1/10/19-3/20/19
W Moved out 3/20/19
M Moved out 5/31/19
W Filed for D 3/3/2020
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Hey Mikey, wow what a low blow by your W! That's crazy! Sounds like it didn't send you spinning so that's good. Glad to hear things are going well otherwise!


Me: 60 w/ S18, D24, D27

M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:57
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