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#2850425 05/23/19 07:01 PM
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Last edited by Cadet; 05/24/19 03:34 AM.

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D8,S7,S5

11/12/17 "I don't want to be married like this" A began
7/12/18 Confessed A
10/1/19 EA still happening with 2
4/23/19 "I want a D, but I want to stay until I find a job"
si13 #2850429 05/23/19 07:05 PM
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Originally Posted by LH19
Originally Posted by si13
But like Steve says, if she chose to gangbang 100 dudes, I should let it roll off my back.

WTF??? No you file for divorce.

Originally Posted by si13
My boundary can be internal I suppose, not to strike fear or provide a wake up experience, but for myself.

WTF does this mean?

Originally Posted by si13
I'm being more than reasonable providing for her, taking care of our kids, while she wallows in "I think I want a D, but will stay here to go out and party while I wait for a job".

Do you think this makes you more attractive or less attractive in her eyes?

Look man, I know this is tough but if you continue like this you are going to be in excruciating pain for a really long time.

You received a gift by having a face to face with one of the best vets on here and I am not sure you walked away any wiser.


LH, I'm sure you mean well with this feedback. The place I'm stuck is whether I say something, am I ready to set a vocal boundary and get to that place of resolution to file myself and no longer get walked on.

You're absolutely right I don't want to be in excruciating pain for a long time. But I do want to use this time wisely for me and for the possible opportunity to get a new M with my W.


H46
W38
M12
T15
D8,S7,S5

11/12/17 "I don't want to be married like this" A began
7/12/18 Confessed A
10/1/19 EA still happening with 2
4/23/19 "I want a D, but I want to stay until I find a job"
si13 #2850431 05/23/19 07:15 PM
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S,

I do mean well and I am a straight shooter. I don't sugarcoat it.

I get you are not ready to file for D. But you have to stop playing happy family and get your respect back.

Serial cheaters are the lowest of the low in WW land.

si13 #2850434 05/23/19 07:19 PM
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LBH always want to talk. Always better to Take action.


Do you want to be with a woman who does not want to be with you?
Do you want to share your woman with other men?




You do not have to say these words, but they should be your thought process:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2050122#Post2050122


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712

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