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Good call Orange! Yeah I'm with Maika and Steve and you- it's a trap!


Me: 60 w/ S18, D24, D27

M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:57
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Ive passed enough perception and insight checks regarding her.

Kudos if you get the reference!


M: 30, EX-W: 30, S:4
M: Sept 16'
A: Jan 17'
WW Left: Oct '17,
EXW Filed TRO: Jan 18',
I Filed D: Feb 18',
TRO Extended 1 yr - May 18'
Final Hearing - Sept 11th 18'
D Final Dec. 18'
TPO on FIL Oct 18'
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Crappy day.

S4 haa been kicked out of pre school for his outbursts. I will be sending him to my parents for summer time for now and visit him every weekend.

Just when things felt like they were improving


M: 30, EX-W: 30, S:4
M: Sept 16'
A: Jan 17'
WW Left: Oct '17,
EXW Filed TRO: Jan 18',
I Filed D: Feb 18',
TRO Extended 1 yr - May 18'
Final Hearing - Sept 11th 18'
D Final Dec. 18'
TPO on FIL Oct 18'
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My daycare funds will be going to an IC for s4


M: 30, EX-W: 30, S:4
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WW Left: Oct '17,
EXW Filed TRO: Jan 18',
I Filed D: Feb 18',
TRO Extended 1 yr - May 18'
Final Hearing - Sept 11th 18'
D Final Dec. 18'
TPO on FIL Oct 18'
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Okay I need some advice, as I mentioned in my previous posts S4 is currently staying with my parents for the summer. I am going up to see him this weekend, my question is this. Obviously my ex-wife is no longer providing care in any way shape or form for my son from buying food and obviously not paying for daycare. It was my original intention to file a motion with the court to pause my child support until such time as she is actually paying for his care and we get him enrolled in a new daycare program. My family's advice to me was to Simply have my child support deduction shut off through my work, the concern I expressed about doing this was being found as not paying my child support by the state. My family basically said that no court in its right mind is going to rule that I should have to pay back those Monies considering my ex-wife is not caring for my son during the time that I'm not paying child support. I do not want her to profit off of this situation which is exactly what's going to happen if the court drags its feet on pausing my child support but I also don't want to get in trouble for not having paid despite the fact that I agree that they probably won't rule against me for not having paid when she doesn't have care of our son. Any advice would be appreciated


M: 30, EX-W: 30, S:4
M: Sept 16'
A: Jan 17'
WW Left: Oct '17,
EXW Filed TRO: Jan 18',
I Filed D: Feb 18',
TRO Extended 1 yr - May 18'
Final Hearing - Sept 11th 18'
D Final Dec. 18'
TPO on FIL Oct 18'
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Is she not seeing her son at all this summer? Are your parents buying everything he needs?

I would absolutely not just stop paying. That could end up costing you more in legal costs, even if you feel you are right.

Do this the legal and correct way.

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I agree with G, dont do it. She could have you arrested for violating your D decree. My dad just stopped paying support and my mom had him arrested. It could backfire on you horribly.


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M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
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Ginger, she is not paying anything for him. He is no longer attending daycare and has been staying at my parents house for well over a week and there are no plans for him to come back until there is daycare lined up for him as it stands right now my family is providing 100% of the care for S4


M: 30, EX-W: 30, S:4
M: Sept 16'
A: Jan 17'
WW Left: Oct '17,
EXW Filed TRO: Jan 18',
I Filed D: Feb 18',
TRO Extended 1 yr - May 18'
Final Hearing - Sept 11th 18'
D Final Dec. 18'
TPO on FIL Oct 18'
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Originally Posted by OrangeK
Ginger, she is not paying anything for him. He is no longer attending daycare and has been staying at my parents house for well over a week and there are no plans for him to come back until there is daycare lined up for him as it stands right now my family is providing 100% of the care for S4


Talk to a lawyer.


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she has only called to talk to him twice since he was up there


M: 30, EX-W: 30, S:4
M: Sept 16'
A: Jan 17'
WW Left: Oct '17,
EXW Filed TRO: Jan 18',
I Filed D: Feb 18',
TRO Extended 1 yr - May 18'
Final Hearing - Sept 11th 18'
D Final Dec. 18'
TPO on FIL Oct 18'
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