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Originally Posted by "Did"
I got a life coaching certification..

Dan, if you're still reading, I'm curious which one you got? I've been curious lately about life, health, and wellness coaching certificates as they synergize well with preparing people for outdoor adventures.

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Good to read Did. Wishing you the best of luck.

I´m your IG follower. Glad to see what you have done.

Way to go.

(((Did)))


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Engaged? After 7 months of dating? You're crazy. I wish you the best of luck...


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Good to hear things are going well Dan!

Originally Posted by Did
Obviously it’s all one sided but many of your wives or ex’s do not currently deserve to be in a relationship with you. If she were a new woman would you “ wife her up or hit it and quit it”.


Absolutely would not even consider going out with my XW if she were a stranger I was just meeting. Most definitely would not "hit it", LOL! I would look at her now and say "no, not my type". She's not the woman I met 30 years ago that I vibed with right away. I am not disparaging her in any way, she is still a wonderful mother and she is a kind and caring person. Just not what I would consider relationship material.

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If she’s not wife material at this point do not treat her as such. She will just pull further away. Give all your energy to yourself - building a positive future and taking care of children, never accept less than 50/50 custody and stop pursuing your ex partner if she left you. That relationship is over. Cut the chord.


100% agree, although I know all too well it's difficult to do after you've been BD'd. It takes a while before you can get to this point!


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AS that is a great way of looking at things. I needed to read that today.

Yes, my W is currently not the person I met nearly 9 years ago.

It's depressing, when you think back to the good times, but it's like a new camera angle.

Did - nice to see you're in a good spot now. Good luck.


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Originally Posted by AnotherStander
Good to hear things are going well Dan!

Originally Posted by Did
Obviously it’s all one sided but many of your wives or ex’s do not currently deserve to be in a relationship with you. If she were a new woman would you “ wife her up or hit it and quit it”.


Absolutely would not even consider going out with my XW if she were a stranger I was just meeting. Most definitely would not "hit it", LOL! I would look at her now and say "no, not my type". She's not the woman I met 30 years ago that I vibed with right away. I am not disparaging her in any way, she is still a wonderful mother and she is a kind and caring person. Just not what I would consider relationship material.

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If she’s not wife material at this point do not treat her as such. She will just pull further away. Give all your energy to yourself - building a positive future and taking care of children, never accept less than 50/50 custody and stop pursuing your ex partner if she left you. That relationship is over. Cut the chord.


100% agree, although I know all too well it's difficult to do after you've been BD'd. It takes a while before you can get to this point!



Funny, because this is precisely the point I just made in my own thread.


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Good to hear your update Did! It's amazing how much life can change in 6 months! keep working it!


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Just wanted to say hey and thanks for the update Did! Don't be a stranger just because you're all googley eyed over your new lady haha!


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