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TF,

Yeah I hear you on the dating thing I have been on about 20 first dates and two seconds and one third. I just canceled one Monday for tonight because quite frankly I’m just not in the mood lol. I’m thinking about putting it on hold until summer is over. I’ve dated a few WWs and became quite annoyed with their scripts.

Next week will be a year on my own. Had to spend the last couple days with my ex because of school stuff. She’s been initiating a lot of contact but I don’t think anything about it. I do notice she can’t hold eye contact with me which is something new. I hear from the grapevine she’s not seeing anyone and is still unhappy.

All and all my life is good and my kids are great so I can’t complain. Still sometimes wonder how this could all be worth it to them but as the saying goes not my circus not my monkeys.

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Great update Twofeet. I hear you about dating fatigue. It is tough. And the older you get the more that you see everyone is bringing their own baggage and scars to a new relationship. I had very good luck early on finding three/four quality women whom I was interested in exploring a relationship with, but that has since dwindled. Date after date with no chemistry is tough, but of course there is no point in settling.


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TF, sounds like you are doing awesome! I too can relate on the dating, I had so many first dates that I couldn't escape from fast enough. Finding someone compatible takes a lot of effort! A lot of people say it's like having a 2nd job and I couldn't agree more.And like you said, don't settle! Stick it out until you find that diamond in the wild.


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Thanks for the update. You sound good. Welcome to the other side.


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Originally Posted by AnotherStander
Stick it out until you find that diamond in the wild.
Keep sifting. Find one that is open, honest and treats you like a king.


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
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Originally Posted by Ready2Change
Originally Posted by AnotherStander
Stick it out until you find that diamond in the wild.
Keep sifting. Find one that is open, honest and treats you like a king


Amen! This and compatibility are very hard to find but worth it!!


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Originally Posted by LH19
TF,

Yeah I hear you on the dating thing I have been on about 20 first dates and two seconds and one third. I just canceled one Monday for tonight because quite frankly I’m just not in the mood lol. I’m thinking about putting it on hold until summer is over. I’ve dated a few WWs and became quite annoyed with their scripts.


LH19,

The majority of women I have dated so far have never been married, also the majority of women I have dated have only been first dates. I have started dating a friend of a friend and she is D with kids like me, but she initiated the D. What are these scripts that you mention in the quote? I think I have seen you mention something like it on a few other quotes. I am trying to figure out if I am dealing with a potential WW/WAW.


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TF,

Statements like “ I am finally learning to put myself first”. “I’m free to do whatever I want”. “I have finally found myself”

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^^^ Hell those statements are all over every single dating profile out there. And those statements I've heard right from my WAW as well. " Another variation is "I'm finally standing up for myself and putting myself first" keep them coming LH19

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Glad you are doing well TF. Im all moved out. I feel very lucky to have met a beautiful young woman. Been six months with this new GF. We get along very well. Its amazing having an emotionally intelligent and empathetic woman. I hope you find a good one. I got lucky honestly. This woman shows me with actions that she wants to be a part of my life. Thats how it should be.


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ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018
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BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018
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