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CodaX2 #2828526
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Me:34 W:40
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BD:3/18
D Final: 6/19
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You can't be saved by what it was, you can only be saved by what it is...


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You can’t have two tales B, be serious...;)

I was waiting for your sitch title after “Coda”...why not some “allegro ma non troppo” as a reawakening?


WW H(me): 49
W: 45
T: 25 M: 20
S: 15
Piecing since 03/2016
Saw the light in the storm
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I just feel so many friends struggling right now on here...one of my favorites verses for many of you this day:

So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.

Deuteronomy 31:6

-B


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LOL...neffer...I was like "um, coda coda? double coda? crap I need another thread, thought I'd be done and dusted by now, but on I go...

X2 is lame and I've been away from my musical education too long to recall all the phrasing..."funeral dirge" maybe? LOL


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Re: CodaX2 [Re: ballast] #2828739
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Originally Posted by Sandi2
Women need to feel admiration for their H.


Saw this on Sandi's last post and it hit a nerve for me. I have a well paying job, lead many folks, BUT even with that to my W how I earned my living was not admirable to her versus other professions. Like I say something I felt from W for a long time that there wasn't much besides changing professions that I could have done to change her mind.

In the calculus of love between two people it always amazes me how some of the most random S88T can throw a kink in the works so to speak. Anyway...


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Where’s the PMA B! I’m keeping “allegro ma non troppo” and progressing from there! You need to be there bro!

Sandi’s post was on the spot, as usual...



WW H(me): 49
W: 45
T: 25 M: 20
S: 15
Piecing since 03/2016
Saw the light in the storm
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LOL...neffer I'm just messing around on the funeral deal. the longer I'm here, the more I think my already having been D'd once before provides me a greater level of insight than when I first arrived.

I lost once, only to be blessed greater than I could imagine, only to find myself on the losing end again...only to now wonder what good stuff lies ahead. a very strange place for me compared to so many on here.

and yes her post was. the shortest, simplest statements so many times have the greatest impact. I find myself cherry picking through much I read on here this days. so much that's good for me as I work to improve myself.

-B


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BD:3/18
D Final: 6/19
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Originally Posted by LH19
I didn't want to hijack the other thread but in 4 years being on this board, approximately 90% of the posters end up divorced. I remember for like a 2 year span everyone used Texhubby as the example, because he was the only one for years who prevented a divorce. The three years of limbo almost killed him though.


92% of people are terrible at sticking to DB because they don't have the discipline that it takes not to backslide and pursue. In many ways its like weight loss, if people were good at being self-disciplined everyone would be fit.

The fact that people have difficulty sticking to the program doesn't mean it doesn't work!

Acc


Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015
Re: CodaX2 [Re: ballast] #2829281
12/21/18 08:57 PM
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had a great meeting with my IC. short and sweet...I don't want her back :-)

it's a great feeling when you have your strength back!


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D Final: 6/19
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