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M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4
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Just had to talk ro ex about s3.
Really weird. Its like talking to a different person.
She texts differently. Very muted, none of her usual left handed comments, but still not what id call "nice"
Its like shes lost the wind in her sails.
Very unlike her. Who knows? Pointless to care really. Just an observation.
Was chuckling reading ItHurts. New girl im seeing is named Mary. Too funny.


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OrangeK,

I've been struggling to keep up here since starting full-time work. Did the divorce happen? Is it finalized? If so congratulations on making it through that difficult day!!! That's also great to hear there's a new girl. How does it feel with the new girl compared to when you first met your wife?

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So far this morning has not been fun. I had fully expected to have the divorce finalized by now. Here I am on our second anniversary, still married. Way too many painful memories popping up on Facebook today. Seriously tempted to reach out to her. I know no good will come of it if I were to do so. It's so hard to see wedding pictures from only two years ago where we both look so happy to know that everything was fake. How can someone fake being so happy so well?


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Sending you a big hug O. Keep your mind busy today. Living present time, getting stronger.


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You will be OK O.....save the pictures and any other keepsakes for S3. I have all of our family pictures, wedding pictures, and my XW wedding dress all in the closet in the spare bedroom. I know my daughters will appreciate looking at them one day since they will probably never remember.


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Woah. Pump the brakes Shawn.

Almost emailed exw our wedding song just now. I just want to know its heavy on her mind today....

Deleted the draft.


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Go get some ice cream


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Orange,

just sit tight. You know it's on her mind and heart. She may reach out to you. My W did on our second anniversary, but even if she does, who knows what that means.

You are getting stronger. Keep fighting to progress.


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Its hard to honestly believe that it's on her mind. She has not shown an ounce of remorse to this date I don't see why things would change today. However she has been on Facebook pretty much all day. I've seen her marked as active every time I've looked at Facebook Messenger. she may not be feeling remorse but I know that she at least looked at all of the old memories on Facebook today. oh well. I am currently in the process of planning a nice weekend away with Mary the weekend after next. That will be enjoyable


M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4
All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18
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2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD
2 Major breakups.
2 Rebounds
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