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Just came across this thread from Tia and Dagny
reposting it so others can post on it.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...2296#Post332296

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Hi gang. 180s take initiative and here are some ideas you can implement yourself. The post below was written by Dagny.

Tia

Get a life and 180s seem to fit hand and hand at times. I ve been gathering a list of suggestions from people on this site. Here it is:

PHYSICAL ACTIVITIES
Exercise
Walk around the block
Take up a new sport
Kayaking
Weight lifting
Jogging
Train for a marathon
Soccer
Biking
Target Shooting
Karate
Tennis
Skiing
Snowboarding
Scuba
Boating
Golf
Swimming
Hiking
Cross country skiing
Yoga
Aerobics

PERSONAL APPERANCE
Start to wear perfume cologne
Change your style of clothing: skirts, not slacks, heels, not flats, new colors, loafers, not sneakers.
Get a new haircut style
Change your hair color add highlights
Get a pedicure
Get a manicure (men too!)
Get fake nails
Shave Don t shave grow a beard, mustache, or soul patch, shave your back

HOBBIES
Take a class: cooking, painting, yoga, pottery, meditation, photography
Join a book club
Start a book club
Take up gardening: plant bulbs for spring (still okay until the ground freezes)
Learn a new language
Volunteer: Senior Center, Hospital, Animal Shelter, Non-profits
Go to Church, Synagogue
Explore a new religion (Soup has a website for Buddhism)

Learn about Feng shui
Learn a new instrument
Learn to knit/crochet/cross-stitch

PERSONAL WELL-BEING
Eat Breakfast
Eat well
Change your diet , switch to low carb low fat, many out there to choose from
Change the type of food you cook, explore a whole new ethnicity
Sleep
Tickle the kids
Call Friends
Read Self-help books
Create Goals
Read Success Stories
Go see a therapist yourself
Make a list of all your good points and talents
Lose Weight

BEHAVIORS
Begin to have an organized home
Find a new way to drive to and from work
Shop at a new grocery store
Change the type of toothpaste you use
Be home when spouse comes home comes over
Dont be home
Wait to return calls emails a day, a few hours, whatever is different
Change the medium of contact phone/email/letters
Learn to flirt. Practice on people you dont know
Break Plates to release anger (garage sales would be good to stock up on these)
Become Mysterious
Stop initiating any conversations
Go to another room when spouse comes home
Stop interfering helping spouse with relationship with kids
Dont make plans that include spouse
Stop keeping spouse informed on kids
Stop confronting spouse
Leave the room first
End the conversation first
Go one day without saying hurry to your kids
Stop defending self
Listen! (Mockers in piecing has a great poem about this)

PAMPERING
Watch a funny movie
Listen to audio tapes: suggested Jack Kornfiled, Pema Chodron
Listen to music
Go see an IMAX movie (Coral Reef recommended)
Buy Peppermint Foot Lotion
Buy new underwear,men, lots of new types of underwear out there!
Take a coffee or tea break
Throw a party
Paint a room
Rearrange furniture


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BEHAVIORS
Start studying the Bible
Institute a weekly family Bible study (with just the kids if your S won't participate)


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Does the "don't shave" apply to the women too?????


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