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T384 #2752542 07/22/17 04:11 AM
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Hey T, I'm all in for a beach trip! Wouldn't that be FUN? Enjoy your soccer match tonight. smile


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"First the pain, then the rising."
Glennon Doyle Melton

leahsue #2752546 07/22/17 04:27 AM
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Anytime! I live in a small little beach community kind of one way in one way out, but it has been built up a lot of over the last couple years. I can't even remember the last time we went to the beach because it's always so crowded now. We usually take the boat out to what's called Disappearing Island, it's an island that, depending on the tide, is there or not hence the name haha.

Anytime you're in the area let me know! I have to go to Mobile in November for a skills seminar/check off for my certification. I have to say I was quite impressed with that area for what I had pictured it to be lol


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T384 #2753045 07/25/17 07:11 AM
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Today is H's 50th birthday. I'm staying NC. But it hurts!


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"First the pain, then the rising."
Glennon Doyle Melton

leahsue #2753046 07/25/17 07:12 AM
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frown hugs.

Would it help if you go out and celebrate YOU?

Tobias #2753054 07/25/17 07:30 AM
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Today is H's 50th birthday. I'm staying NC. But it hurts!


Hey, that was me a few months ago!

It does hurt. It's hard when you start to think about how you'd once pictured celebrating their milestone birthday and then how it actually ends up playing out.

I'm with Tobias. Make plans, get out of the house, and it will help you get out of your head.

Hugs, Leah.

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Hey Leah, hope you're doing ok. Nice you could meet up. I'd love to get out stateside at some point and meet some of the folks that have been helping me through.

Stay strong.


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T: 7 yrs Engaged: 2 yrs
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cadence #2753060 07/25/17 07:48 AM
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Yeah, I'm still in WA at my daughter's and she's working. Maybe we will go out to dinner or something. She suggested maybe I have myself a little burning ceremony, etc., but since I'm not at home, I don't really have anything handy to set on fire. LOL. Think I'll head to the pool until she gets off.

One year ago we were getting on a cruise ship to Jamaica. Everyone kept telling me how lucky I was b/c H was so obviously in love with me and didn't mind showing it.

AND we were planning for his birthday. When I turned 50, he threw a party to end all parties at our lake house. Invited everyone that's important to me, childhood friends, college friends, teaching friends, and put many of them up for overnight visit. It was the happiest weekend. And I was so looking forward to giving back to him that kind of experience.

My daughter just sent me this in a text-
"This is anything but easy, but you are anything but weak."

She's a keeper. smile


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"First the pain, then the rising."
Glennon Doyle Melton

leahsue #2753137 07/25/17 01:00 PM
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Leah, I hope the day has been easier than you thought and you are out for a lovely dinner enjoying this beautiful day. I am suddenly flooded with hope and looking forward to my new life. I wish the same for you.

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One year ago we were getting on a cruise ship to Jamaica. Everyone kept telling me how lucky I was b/c H was so obviously in love with me and didn't mind showing it.


I know this feeling. Mine was so affectionate and proud to be with me. It wasn't a slow dying down of affection/passion. More like it was there 100% and then it was gone.

It's really hard to make sense of it.

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I think this is one of the toughest challenges, to reconcile our memories of what was and what is now. The constant loop of well, how could he/she have done that then and be doing this now...and there is no easy way to make sense of it. Other than to accept that what was in the past is done and we have to deal with what is real today while accepting that we have no idea how things will unfold in the future.


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