I really enjoyed that WII! Thank you! I pretty hit the nail on the head for all of them. Except for the moving on part. which I actually do pretty ok, sometimes I just hold onto things in my heart, but don't let them hold me back.
G, you are one of the strongest and most fabulous (kind, smart, cute, loyal, dedicated, fun, good mom, patient, humble) women I've ever had the pleasure to meet, and the honor to count as a friend.
You ARE lacking a pug, but that shall be remedied once school is done I betcha!
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
G, you are one of the strongest and most fabulous (kind, smart, cute, loyal, dedicated, fun, good mom, patient, humble) women I've ever had the pleasure to meet, and the honor to count as a friend.
You ARE lacking a pug, but that shall be remedied once school is done I betcha!
Rosalinda, What you see in me, I see in you. I'm very lucky to have you as a friend likewise. My h@ll brought me here but the brightside is the friends I have found. Thank you.
I was talking to one of my new friends from the gym. She told me the story of the relationship she was in and how one night he hit her. She went home to her parents and was a mess and didn't leave her bed for 2 weeks. Her mom was desperate to get her out of her depression and bought her a dog. She said the dog saved her. I absolutely believe it.
I'm in a funk right now. My funks come with being overwhelmed, too much on my plate and having no one to turn to for help and the loneliness. And having to be strong, even when I feel weak. A pug would certainly pull me out. If I had 5 sec to myself I would go volunteer at an animal shelter or something.
I've got a question for you all. Do you think everything that happens to us in life is because of a choice we made? DO you believe in luck, good or bad? I was having this convo with a friend the other day and we differed in opinion, and I thought I would bounce it off you guys:)
I've got a question for you all. Do you think everything that happens to us in life is because of a choice we made? DO you believe in luck, good or bad? I was having this convo with a friend the other day and we differed in opinion, and I thought I would bounce it off you guys:)
Ginger,
We obviously have a fair amount control over our lives, so choices can make a difference, but random events occur that we have no control over. However, we do have control over our attitudes, or our perspective, of the various events that occur in our lives. Typically if things don't go a planned (the chosen path), we often view it as a "bad" thing and we rarely look at the new opportunities that the various random events provide. Thus, we tend to look at deviations from our intended path as undesirable rather than as different, and potentially better, alternatives to our chosen path.
Clearly, setting goals and planning are valuable tools, but as the various obstacles arise while pursuing goals, it's important to recognize that setbacks are often viewed as setbacks due to our own perception; it's possible that a setback could actually be an opportunity.
Why Doodler, that was an excellent point of view. We do have control over our attitudes. I do think we can have the right attitude, really try to achieve what we set out to do, but sometimes it doesn't work out. And that may hurt pretty bad, but I don't think it's anyone choice we made that caused an undesired outcome.
I've spent a lot of time with my IC asking what am I doing wrong? Od I deserve this, is this my own making?" and she says no. I do believe certain circumstances just go unexplained many of the times.
I do believe certain circumstances just go unexplained many of the times.
Absolutely! For example, being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, in my opinion, is just bad luck because there's a high probability of death in the near-term. It would difficult to put a positive spin on that. I qualify that as bad luck.
Of course, I'd say it would certainly be good luck and a good choice, but that's doodler's perspective. I think that at least a few dates would be required so that a skinny dipping partner could be certain that it's both good luck and a good choice. I think to do otherwise would be inviting trouble (i.e. a bad choice that could possibly lead to bad luck).
