I went through the threads with the most replies, I paid attention to the signatures and focused on the ones who managed to save their marriage. No worries friend, I'm not truly creeping on ya, I was just pleased to see one of the success stories return.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
lol I'm not too worried about being stalked. I just never really imagined anyone would ever stumble across my posts and take the time to read them. As I said, I'm flattered though!
You sound like I did back then. Looking to find others who succeeded and then trying to figure out what they did differently than the ones who didn't. I'm not sure it is that simple. Of course there are people who hammered the last nail in the coffin by themselves but there are also others who did a fine job but their spouse didn't come around. At least not with any time left on the clock. Sometimes the left behind spouse has already decided to move on.
I'm about to start reading your story.
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
Wow SM34! Welcome back. Great to hear you are doing well and that M has survived. I remember you and I started here around the same time my first stint around. W and I reconciled, but unfortunately we are having rough times again. Well actually things have been better between us lately, but still separate bedrooms. We shall see. I'm just working on me. That's my focus
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
SM34 - very encouraging... I haven't read your thread but sounds similar to mine and hope I have the same outcome in a few years.... done my best to keep the door open, being pleasant but it hasn't been easy.
W just now is in the process of ending things with OM and wants to slowly starting working on the R, I'm guarded but hopeful. Thanks for coming back to share!
Me: 40 W: 45 T: 13, M: 11 1 D: 9
Suspect A 6/15 ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16 EA/PA Discovered 3/16 EA admitted 3/16 W Moved out 4/16 W opens R talk and says A over 1/17
Hey Sm34, Thanks for posting your update. I know for me it is nice to hear from and about people who have been successful in saving their M. I have been dealing with my sitch for about 6 months now. I have a coach and have taken a "softer" stance than some would advocate on here. I am going to look back at your posts to get a feel for how things got to where they are for you.
Me:42 W:37 M:18 T:23 3S: 4,7,10 EA 6/16 ILYBNILWY 7/16 9/16 separate BR 10/16 Discernment Counseling She's moving out 1/17