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beckyb #2640744 01/09/16 09:10 AM
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Bad experience with AD so far. Awake all night, headache, nausea. I sure hope this subsides. I'm definately not depressed enough to deal with this.


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H48
M 13
No children together
BDMay '15
PA June '15
H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing
Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
beckyb #2642927 01/14/16 02:16 PM
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Update: I have been posting here and there for a while but here is an update on my situation.

My H and his L have my proposal. H is still submitting accurate financial information. Our court dates were cancelled due to the judge's schedule and likely won't happen until early March. So,unfortunatley there is no sense of urgency for H.

I have no idea what his response will be, or when but I'm really ok no matter what. Unless the judge is completely crazy the worst-case scenario will still be tolerable, though hard to swallow. I'm no longer stressing about it. It is out of my hands now. And God has always provided more than enough for me.

I am dreading the whole legal process, selling a house, filing taxes and all that stuff. Can't wait for it to be over.

I accept that my marriage is over. I don't think any amount of DBing will change that. My goal is to get through this with grace and mercy.

My feelings toward H are mixed. I am disappointed, puzzled and sometimes angry at what he has done. I also feel sorry for him. He is not happy, he is not healthy. He is very far from God. I pray for him and I pray that I will be able to forgive.

This weekend is the 1 year anniversary of his father's death. Today I sent him a text saying I was praying for him as he deals with this. No agenda. No ulterior motive. He said Thank You.

I've been gaining insight into a lot of other things in my life that I will start to share. From now on my updates will be in Surviving the Big D.


Me53
H48
M 13
No children together
BDMay '15
PA June '15
H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing
Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
beckyb #2642939 01/14/16 02:40 PM
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Becky, thank you for sharing your update. I hope you get a lot of support on the Surviving the Big D section, will be thinking about you and praying for peace and healing for you.


BD 2/15
separation 1/16
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ARose #2642948 01/14/16 02:54 PM
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Thanks Fo. And I will keep tabs on folks here.


Me53
H48
M 13
No children together
BDMay '15
PA June '15
H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing
Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
beckyb #2643115 01/15/16 03:03 AM
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Ah, Becky - I feel your pain. My D date is fast approaching. We're just ironing out the details.

I ordered the book you recommended. It is helpful, and I'm getting some good insight. It just feels so hopeless now. Everyone in those groups? Husband is gone forever. I still had a tiny little ember of hope that is getting harder and harder to keep lit.

More processing to do, I guess. Thanks for the update! I've been thinking of you.


Me: 48 H: 50 - Married 21 - 3-S: 29,19,19 2-D: 27,26
BD: 08/2015 - D filed & OW disc: 09/2015

"Surrender to What Is, Let Go of What Was, Have Faith in What Will Be." -S Ricotti
Ancaire #2643138 01/15/16 06:15 AM
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Thanks Ancaire. I am beginning to realize that even with my marriage there is a great deal of hope in my life. There is for you too.


Me53
H48
M 13
No children together
BDMay '15
PA June '15
H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing
Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
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