I think it is going to be hard for many of us, but you are right. If we reach out to each other, friends, and family, we will be okay. I keep being reminded to stay in the moment.
And as Tiny Tim says, "God bless us, every one"
Hugs E
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
PigPen, acknowledge the feeling, observe the feeling and then let it go. Stay in the present moment. The past is a thought, the future is anticipated but still a thought. All we have is now, stay here. Be strong
Hi PP, hope your spirits have picked up a little my friend. You sound like a great guy. Equally, you have a lot going on and holidays do tend to put the spotlight on our situations.
Regarding the contact from your W. Don't know if you have got back to her - but if you are feeling raw, you may want to minimise being in touch with her. For me, I'd be tempted to just say - good thanks & have a Merry Xmas. But if you want to give a more authentic response with no expectations, then fair enough my friend.
I hope you manage to have as good an Xmas as possible Sweetie xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
I agree with Sotto. Fake your reply and keep it short. For the most part you are good. So it is not really faking it. Holidays are emotional for them as well. If it is real, it will be there after the holidays. DB'ing starts with patience and ends with patience, so dont get turned in the wrong direction yet
That being said... How freakin awesome was her text!! Yeah yeah yeah, expectations at zero. pfft, you already know that! Still, it is nice to celebrate a tiny win. In a million years my H would not say those words to me, lol. And you soooo deserve it PP.
Me: 42 H: 45 M: 18 yrs T: 20 yrs D: 17 D: 15 S: 12 I kicked him out 8/21/15 I will DB until March 21st 2017, that is it!
Hi PP! Just checking in on you. I'm having a rough time at the moment, too. Just sad about all that is changing, really.
I'm still afraid of what the future will bring. I haven't gotten to the point that I can see a plan and a way forward. I'm learning to trust, though, that when it's time, the way forward will be revealed. It's hard remaining connected with my spiritual side and trusting - but this has always been the weakest area in my life, and so I'm forcing myself to learn.
I'll have a house full at Christmas, but will probably be on and off all day so that I don't screw up and do something I'll regret. Just know that I'll be thinking of you, along with others, I'm sure.
You're a great friend and an inspiration to many of us. Your willingness to share your knowledge is a gift that cannot truly be repaid. Thank you. I've learned a lot just reading along your thread.
Sorry I've been gone so long. Merry Christmas, my friend!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Merry Christmas Pigpen, I wish I could give you a gift as great as you have given me. Your support has made all the difference this year. What I've learned this year is that we are in a ever changing moment and best thing to do is to stay focused on the here and now. Be well
