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Originally Posted By: ATPeace

1) The best thing to do is to let her go

2) I should tell her that we should instruct soliciters to put the house on the market

3) I should move to my mums

4) I should tell her that I am sorry that I have been trying to save the marriage and build something new



NOBODY ELSE ANSWER THESE.

YOU GIVE IT A SHOT, GHOST.

WHAT DO YOU THINK WE WILL SAY TO THESE?

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I have let her go I do not have any control over whatever she is going to do

Moving to my mums will give her space but this will not help to make things better as I doubt anythng will make things better now

I should instruct a solicitor and tell her I am going to to move things forwards to where it is going to go to

No point in telling her I am sorry for trying to save the marriage ...just laying guilt on her


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Azzork

I get what you say that I am the frog

I see this just don't what to believe it

Thank you


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I have let her go I do not have any control over whatever she is going to do
So why are you asking us? Of COURSE the best thing is to let her go. So just do it.

Moving to my mums will give her space but this will not help to make things better as I doubt anythng will make things better now
It isnt about "making things better". Try again. Should I move out to your mom's place?

I should instruct a solicitor and tell her I am going to to move things forwards to where it is going to go to
Are you [censored] kidding me? Why would you do that? HAS ANYBODY RECOMMENDED YOU TO DO THAT? ANY. SINGLE. PERSON?From everything I can tell, you are not interested in a divorce at this time. So why the hell would you do the work for it?

Try again. Should I instruct a solicitor to move forward with a divorce?


No point in telling her I am sorry for trying to save the marriage ...just laying guilt on her
Yep. Got it.

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ATP, Did you read DR?

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Yes I did

I will read it again tonight

Please is there any specific sections that I should pay particular attention to ?

Or just read the whole book again

Ok I will not get a solicitor to do this I do not want this I do not want to divorce


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No harm in re-reading the book.

But you already know what to do. STFU, detach, and get a life that doesn't revolve around her, your feelings for her, your expectations about her and your M, and your fear.

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ATP

Get legal advice. I moved out of the family house primarily because I couldn't afford it on my own.

I took advice and there was no detriment to moving out.

Best thing I ever did was letting her go. You can move on with your life and believe me it gets easier.

Im now in Divorce proceedings and looking forward to the day when my stbx is no longer in my life apart from our daughter.

She made her choice and I made mine......no more dancing to her tune..


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So up early and down to the gym for my consultation

Feeling very motivated to loose the weight and get fitt

Booked in ten sessions with the personal trainer

My daughter is just two for the next how ever many years we will be passing her back and forward this seems so wronging my son is 12 this cannot be the best for him

No family holidays it is so much easier for everyone living together

I just want her to work on things


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ATP, in terms of your focus, Keep this >>>> So up early and down to the gym for my consultation

Feeling very motivated to loose the weight and get fitt

Booked in ten sessions with the personal trainer

Lose this>>>>>>My daughter is just two for the next how ever many years we will be passing her back and forward this seems so wronging my son is 12 this cannot be the best for him

No family holidays it is so much easier for everyone living together

I just want her to work on things

Read what you post again - this seems so wronging, it is so much easier for everyone, I just want her to.....Let this stuff go, it is not yours to control. Release it ATP and every time your mind goes down this track, switch it back on to you, the gym, what you can do for yourself, okay??


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D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
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