For those who don't remember me, I was pretty active on this board from 2011-2012 when my ex husband left. It was devastating and hard, but I got through it. I have posted a couple of updates since then, but I don't think I've been back for about 1.5 years.
So much has changed, and all for the better. The biggest news by far is I AM ENGAGED!!!!
I know, for some of you the thought of ever getting involved let alone getting married is not something you even want to think about. I get it, I really do. I did the whole online dating thing and kissed a lot, and I mean a lot of frogs, but I eventually found my prince.
I met my fiancee in Feb of 2014. On our first initial date, I didn't feel an attraction to him other than I thought he was a really nice guy and someone that I could see myself being friends with. Basically, he wasn't my type at all. However, the more time we spent together, the more I enjoyed being around him and when I sat back and thought about it, how well was my type working for me? It wasn't.
He's amazing. Seriously. I've never met a more kind, honest, caring man. He is divorced like me, has children that he is very involved with, no drama with his ex or anything like that.
I've never had a relationship like this one. Ever. Where there is so much trust, communication and honesty. No, our relationship isn't perfect, but it's pretty close to it and we both know that this is meant to be.
I think about all the hard times I went through during my D and how I didn't think I'd ever make it to the other side. But I did, and I have faith that you all will too. Whether that means having love in your life again, or being happy on your own with loving friends and family, you can if you want to. I believe that happiness is a choice, and I chose to be happy. It was a rough road to get to the happiness, but the journey was so worth it.
To those of you who may be divorced but not in a good place, please don't give up hope. Go back and read some of my initial posts when I first joined, you will read how hopeless I felt. Sad, depressed, angry. I didn't think I would ever figure out who I am in this world without him, but I learned and my life is better than ever.
I have no regrets for how I have lived my life up until this point, because it's paved the way for where I am today.
Keep on keeping on, and keep your chin up. You will be okay.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
