Lost, I just went back to your first post, wow you have been at this for a long time. Almost 2 years? I admire your patience and commitment. Wishing you the best.
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Yes, a very long time. Trust me when I say it has not been easy and I've had some very passive-aggressive moments (flipping him off when I went in the other room, and my personal favorite letting the plunger drip on his toothbrush after using it!)
I am not the best DBer, still need to GAL more and taking better care of myself physically and really watch how I react. But I have made enough positive changes to seemingly get my marriage moving in the right direction. We still have not had a conversation about it, I'm ok with that for now but still feel that will need to happen at some point in the future.
I remind myself on a daily basis of where I was 6-9 months ago. There is still lots of work to be done I don't think he's a)ready or b)has figured that out yet so I will continue on the path I'm on for now as it is the path I wanted.
Pho, I am not familiar with your sitch so I will stop by and check out your thread at some point (I'm not on here too often). As you can see from my posts patience truly is key!
Bob, thanks for stopping by!
Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since
Lost, you mean there is something wrong with flipping your H off every time he walks out of the room? Because I do this and it feels so good. Maybe I am passive aggressive.
Hahaha, it does feel good! I'm sure I'm not using the term passive-aggressive clinically correct, but that is how I feel!
Had a fun weekend, but there are so many things that are bugging the crap out of me. I have to get going now, but need to find time soon to get these things written out!
Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
Wow, had no idea it had been so long...Yikes! Been busy, and getting busier.
I still have lots of work to do but still married, seems like it is going to stay that way. Working on the happily ever after part but holding out that we will get there. Have not had a conversation about our R at all which is a big part of my frustrations.
Hope you all are doing well, I will try to get on more often and maybe give more of an update....but for now still going.
Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since
