This has proved to be a good title! Nothing from xh for over a month now . . . The first six months of the year I had dozens and dozens of emails and quite a few texts and two meetings.
Too much, BUT we did achieve friendlier terms for dealing with any issues relating to our grown up kids. And yes, even grown up children have their ups and downs where parents can be supportive and helpful.
However he is remarried, and I suggested that we really didn't need to communicate this much, which he has fully accepted.
All in all I am pleased with how I handled it. AFter all these years civility seems to have broken out.
It is worth taking the high road, and sucking it up. Much as I would love to have a good rant and scream (havng got his attention for more than 5 minutes) but really this way is better. Sometimes being a grown up really s*cks
Bea, I'm very happy that things have settled down for you. At least you and your xh are on more friendlier terms w/respect to your adult children.
I hope that the calmer waters continue for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I might be an old-timer too! I am so sorry Beatrice that he continues to at times be a problem for you but glad if things are calmer now and you are getting a break from contact. I just posted about more "evidence" if you will of my xh not being anything remotely like the person I married/lived with all those years. I think it never ceases to be shocking.
I hope things are well with your sons and with you as well :-)
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
All is good - I miss being in a long term relationship at times, and I sometimes miss the person my xh was - and I am not deluding myself here because everyone can now see how much he has changed. It is weird.