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Cadet #2590309 07/21/15 08:45 PM
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Originally Posted By: Cadet
An old timers reunion, cool!

Hey, who you calling old??!!

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Drew #2590331 07/21/15 09:57 PM
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Originally Posted By: Drew
Originally Posted By: Cadet
An old timers reunion, cool!

Hey, who you calling old??!!

smile

Well I admit to it, if you don't want to that is OK. smile


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Cadet #2590702 07/23/15 01:29 AM
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Hey???? I' m only 44. :))

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This has proved to be a good title! Nothing from xh for over a month now . . . The first six months of the year I had dozens and dozens of emails and quite a few texts and two meetings.

Too much, BUT we did achieve friendlier terms for dealing with any issues relating to our grown up kids. And yes, even grown up children have their ups and downs where parents can be supportive and helpful.

However he is remarried, and I suggested that we really didn't need to communicate this much, which he has fully accepted.

All in all I am pleased with how I handled it. AFter all these years civility seems to have broken out.

It is worth taking the high road, and sucking it up. Much as I would love to have a good rant and scream (havng got his attention for more than 5 minutes) but really this way is better. Sometimes being a grown up really s*cks grin

beatrice #2593595 08/02/15 11:42 AM
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Bea,
I'm very happy that things have settled down for you. At least you and your xh are on more friendlier terms w/respect to your adult children.

I hope that the calmer waters continue for you.


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The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
job #2593603 08/02/15 12:42 PM
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Good for you Bea. I look,forward to a day when it doesn't sting so much.


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123Gwen #2598714 08/17/15 06:11 PM
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I might be an old-timer too! I am so sorry Beatrice that he continues to at times be a problem for you but glad if things are calmer now and you are getting a break from contact. I just posted about more "evidence" if you will of my xh not being anything remotely like the person I married/lived with all those years. I think it never ceases to be shocking.

I hope things are well with your sons and with you as well :-)


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AntoniaB #2598994 08/18/15 10:09 AM
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All is good - I miss being in a long term relationship at times, and I sometimes miss the person my xh was - and I am not deluding myself here because everyone can now see how much he has changed. It is weird.

But like you, do not like the man he now is.

Sons are good, and I enjoy them being adult!

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