or CALL 303-444-7004 to get started right away!

 

 


A Divorce Busting® Coach can help you save your marriage, even when your spouse wants out.


Save your marriage singlehandedly!
Divorce Busting Telephone Coaching DISCOUNT
SAVE$30 -- 3-SESSIONS for ONLY $360
- valid until September 30

CALL 303-444-7004
or to order online at the Divorce Busting Store
use code SAVE$30

A Message from Michele
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 4 of 5 1 2 3 4 5
Re: Old dog seeks new trick 15 [Re: Vanilla] #2584439
07/03/15 10:56 AM
07/03/15 10:56 AM
Joined: Jun 2014
Posts: 1,106
Merrie England
O
Old Dog Offline OP
Member
Old Dog  Offline OP
Member
O
Joined: Jun 2014
Posts: 1,106
Merrie England
Looking for time to update.


M: 57 / EW: 52
T: 21, M: 8
S: 18, S: 15
Bomb: 1 Jun 14
EA Aug 2014 I think
PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner
Re: Old dog seeks new trick 15 [Re: Old Dog] #2584529
07/03/15 04:44 PM
07/03/15 04:44 PM
Joined: Oct 2014
Posts: 8,855
UK
V
Vanilla Offline
Member
Vanilla  Offline
Member
V
Joined: Oct 2014
Posts: 8,855
UK
Hmmmmmmm

V


Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW


Re: Old dog seeks new trick 15 [Re: Vanilla] #2591338
07/25/15 02:43 AM
07/25/15 02:43 AM
Joined: Oct 2014
Posts: 8,855
UK
V
Vanilla Offline
Member
Vanilla  Offline
Member
V
Joined: Oct 2014
Posts: 8,855
UK
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Mmmmmmmmm

V


Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW


Re: Old dog seeks new trick 15 [Re: Vanilla] #2591362
07/25/15 05:38 AM
07/25/15 05:38 AM
Joined: Nov 2009
Posts: 13,219
NY
Cadet Offline

Member
Cadet  Offline

Member
Joined: Nov 2009
Posts: 13,219
NY
I know he is doing great however I will let him tell you the details.


Me-66, D33,S32
Re: Old dog seeks new trick 15 [Re: Cadet] #2591366
07/25/15 07:35 AM
07/25/15 07:35 AM
Joined: Jul 2014
Posts: 1,008
G
gan Offline
Member
gan  Offline
Member
G
Joined: Jul 2014
Posts: 1,008
Now I am very curious to hear an update!!!


H 37 Me 36
Together 15 years
Married 5 years
No kids
BD Apr 2014
H moved out 2 Jun 2014
Re: Old dog seeks new trick 15 [Re: gan] #2591376
07/25/15 11:33 AM
07/25/15 11:33 AM
Joined: Apr 2014
Posts: 2,118
G
Ggrass Offline
Member
Ggrass  Offline
Member
G
Joined: Apr 2014
Posts: 2,118
Me 3!


M 46 h54
Both married before
T 11y
Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads!
Ms 18 hs 26
Re: Old dog seeks new trick 15 [Re: Ggrass] #2604521
09/05/15 11:23 PM
09/05/15 11:23 PM
Joined: Jun 2014
Posts: 1,106
Merrie England
O
Old Dog Offline OP
Member
Old Dog  Offline OP
Member
O
Joined: Jun 2014
Posts: 1,106
Merrie England
Holy cow! It's been over two months since I posted last.

Here's a very quick update. I'm still plodding along as best as I can. I've dropped the rope and I'm still seeing my new lady friend (NLF).

I travel up to Lincolnshire to see my boys every other weekend, picking them up and staying with my mum: we're there now. I do not speak to my ex and only exchange the briefest of texts or emails about the boys or the house were trying to sell.

I had the boys for two separate weeks over the school holidays. One, we spent exploring the area where I now live, and the other, we went to Paris on the Eurostar.

I feel guilty for dropping the rope. I also feel bad for thinking of my ex when I'm with NLF. And I feel as though I'm beginning to coast again, not striving to be the man I want to be.

I hope I'll be able to return here more regularly, maybe on a different forum as I'm not a newcomer any longer although I still have a lot to learn.


M: 57 / EW: 52
T: 21, M: 8
S: 18, S: 15
Bomb: 1 Jun 14
EA Aug 2014 I think
PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner
Re: Old dog seeks new trick 15 [Re: Old Dog] #2604525
09/05/15 11:53 PM
09/05/15 11:53 PM
Joined: Apr 2015
Posts: 1,387
P
PigPen Offline
Member
PigPen  Offline
Member
P
Joined: Apr 2015
Posts: 1,387
Welcome back OD, was curious how you were doing.

I'm sure the process of true healing has lots of starts, stops, coasts, and surges. It's only natural to feel guilt and mixed feelings when there was someone in your life for so long. It means you're a good man. It means you care.

Hope you do come around and use the board to get yourself back on the track you want to.

PP


M 39 W 36
T5 M3
BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day
Served 9/15
D finalized 6/17
Re: Old dog seeks new trick 15 [Re: PigPen] #2604573
09/06/15 07:13 AM
09/06/15 07:13 AM
Joined: Oct 2014
Posts: 5,301
S
Sotto Offline
Member
Sotto  Offline
Member
S
Joined: Oct 2014
Posts: 5,301
Hello OD, really good to hear from you. It's great to get an update from people who haven't been around for a while.

You certainly sound in a better place than you were 4/5/6 months ago. And probably having some fun times with NLF has helped. I guess there is always that elephant in the room. Is it right to date if you are M and hope to R with your W if possible? Maybe that's now what you hope....but it's worth staying aware of that and keeping things light and honest with NLF if so. It would be a shame to hurt a 3rd party because of your own pain.

So if you feel you are coasting, what would you like to do next in terms of goals?? xx


T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Re: Old dog seeks new trick 15 [Re: Sotto] #2605094
09/08/15 03:53 PM
09/08/15 03:53 PM
Joined: Jun 2014
Posts: 2,685
FL
S
SunnyB Offline
Member
SunnyB  Offline
Member
S
Joined: Jun 2014
Posts: 2,685
FL
OD, I'm happy to hear your update. I wouldn't worry too much about coasting for a short time, I think it's necessary occasionally to consolidate and make permanent the changes we have already made. Just be aware of where you'd like to end up and don't coast forever. I hope you keep posting from time to time.



"Don't look back, you aren't going that way"
Page 4 of 5 1 2 3 4 5

Moderated by  Cadet, job, Virginia 

Save Your Marriage! Schedule Online

Schedule a phone consultation with a Divorce Busting® Coach! Call: 800-664-2435 or 303-444-7004