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Re: The Beat Goes On [Re: Mighty] #2570799
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Seriously - get the security video. Lucky for you, this occurred somewhere where there will be video, so that it's not just her word against yours. Sounds like she's been making up tons of BS so it would be very good for you to have the tape to defend yourself.

Then just go back to not giving them any attention at all. They're SO not worth your time or energy.

BTW - what did your daughter think of you calling her that?

Re: The Beat Goes On [Re: Mighty] #2570800
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See????

I called it.

It's about every three months for a year and a half that SOMETHING crazy happens.

Actually... it's been like that for almost three years! But specifically in this sitch for 1.5 that I could concisely state at this point.

Ugh! OK... August will be fabulous.

Re: The Beat Goes On [Re: Mighty] #2570802
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Mighty,
They are feeding off of each other's drama. It's a thrill to them to keep the drama going. The more she can say that you are stalking her, the more he'll come to her defense and get on your case about it....it doesn't matter that you aren't doing these things...why? Because she going to continue planting seeds of "poor me, I'm scared of Mighty" in his mind.

The only thing I can figure is that she told the cop you were chasing her with the car. LOL! Gosh, that was so stupid of her.

I'll have to share my little adventure of meeting the my xh's ow back in 2000. I really was a bad girl and I'm lucky I wasn't escorted out of where she worked...but the drama was too good for the parties that were witnessing it.

Your meeting was very mild to some. Drama queen to the highest.

Now, it's back to Mighty's world. Mighty, I truly hope that you can find some peace this weekend. Gosh, it's been such an up and down time for you. Hopefully the kitchen will be looking better and closer to being finished very soon.

Please try to enjoy your weekend.


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The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Re: The Beat Goes On [Re: Mighty] #2570805
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Ellie-

Well... at the time, she was not thrilled. By the time we got home she kind of got a kick out of it.

Then she told me she told her close friends... who also got a kick out of it.

I'm so embarrassed. But honestly, it's reality. It's life. And these are real emotions.


Re: The Beat Goes On [Re: Mighty] #2570807
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Thanks, job. I do have some plans this weekend and I'm really looking forward to them.

Haha! I would have loved to see what happened in 2000!

Re: The Beat Goes On [Re: kml] #2570815
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Mighty.

Thats some event .... I might be looking at this whole thing through a different set of glasses .... no .. no 2x4 from me but following your story and giving this some thought I thought I would share my viewpoint.

Recall that we all come here due to the hurt and pain, and we are told ... work on us, we are the prize? Well I see its evident that you indeed are the prize here. I will try to explain it the best I can ... maybe it will make sense .. I hope.

I too doubt this was a total accident, and it does say a bit about hww's character from where I stand ... keep in mind I have Jedi Mindreading ability. I would imagine she spotted you and has been thinking about any confrontation for some time, as the OM who 'stole' your husband .... at the core she must have thought it would be a possibility. All her actions to this point have tended to lead one to believe she is a very insecure person ... and with you ... you are the prize, you and your H had what she never will ... 20 years ... lets face it , her track record, the way she is , I doubt her relationships have lasted long .. so you are in the way, H already attempted to go back to you just when she thought she had him on lockdown. She knows H is not happy, miserable .. the happy times between them are gone so what better way to keep you away from her and her 'family' than to stage an even and hope to start laying the ground work for restraining orders.

Its the drama game Mighty ... you are above this .. do not let her suck you in .. but just smile that she is so threatened by you and so insecure and terrified that the simple "HomeWrecker" comment prompted her to run off to the police ... I mean WHO does that?


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OMG. I laughed so hard I almost fell out of bed when I read about your 'event.' Cali is so right, Mighty. This person is so threatened by you she has to completely make up cr@p to try and draw XH closer. It will never work. He will one day see her for who she really is, if he hasnt already. You ARE the prize. Keep that in mind. No 2x4's from me! You go, girl! Hope you enjoy your weekend. Me, I'm going to my vacation home probably for the last time before he buys it from me and starts playing house with OW and her kids. (Eye roll)


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BD June '13
H moved out July '13
Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14
H filed for D Nov. '14
D March '15
Re: The Beat Goes On [Re: LiveNow] #2570898
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Ok, it IS kinda funny. What a crazeeee biatch.

She called the PO PO on you Mighty...for what? Hurting her feelings??

You didn't even call her an obscenity and it was through a car window.

I do wonder if she is following you and has been awaiting this op. Not to go all paranoid, but it seems a bit fishy.


"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man

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Re: The Beat Goes On [Re: LoisB] #2570912
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Mighty, I just want to say a few things, if I may. First of all, Im sorry you were upset and that she called the cops. Ridiculous that she did.

When I was going through all of this and would angry about the ow, I finally realized something. Everytime I said something or did something, I was playing right into their hands. It became them against the world.

She didnt care if I was angry or upset. Neither did my xh. So what was the point of that?

They have to stick up for the other person. If they dont and they agree about what kind of person they are, what does that say about them?

So, I decided that I was not going to allow them to make me be someone I wasnt. I wasnt going to allow them to change me and who I had become. Nope. No freakin way were either of them getting any part of me.

Mighty, she doesnt care what you say. Thats the truth of it. I think you are thinking deep inside that you can find the words to either of them that is going to make them think about what they are doing and it's not going to happen.

When you act like that, you are just confirming what they think you are like.

He will not admit to you anything about her. You are just spinning your wheels.

The ow is grasping at straws. This relationship will one day come crashing down because it is built on lies, deceit and the breaking up of a family.

Dont stoop to their level, Mighty. Dont try to get them to hear anything. Be the Mighty you want to be in spite of their actions. Show your daughter how to get through the tough parts of life with dignity and strength. Leave them to their ridiculousness.

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I am aghast the police wasted their time with this incident. Maybe if you had yelled a 4-letter word...they could have inferred some sort of indecency but, oh my goodness!

"Homewrecker"

Screamed at Walmart?

Wowwwwww. eek

Verbally, that lands on the same verbal assault scale as calling someone "meanie" at a maximum security prison. It is just laughable.

But, it does make me wonder what she said in order to get the police report filed...which is why you need to see the police report.

Will it anger you?

Yup.

But, information is power and you, Mighty, keep giving away your power at the wrong time.

You need to know if she insinuated you were violent or irrational in the police report.

I have a feeling she may have done this.

Why?

Because your ex made the comment that you need to "leave them alone" which is baffling because you have left them alone.

In fact, you ignore him on a regular basis.

Which makes me ask an obvious question: How much more alone could you leave them?

Answer: You can't leave them any more alone than you have.

Well then...if this is the answer...we need to ask another question:

What is your ex losing because of your silence? And, how does your ex benefit if he can paint a picture of an irrational and/or violent ex-wife?

When I ask, "What is your ex losing because of your silence" ask yourself this:

Do I have something he wants...but he can't access because I am silent?

I think you might know the answer to this.

Some ex's estranged from their children will use any weapon available to regain the relationship. Even if it means destroying their ex-spouse by alleging they are irrational and/or violent.

I strongly advise you to get the police report and do not take your husband's rantings lightly. I'm beginning to think he is not in as much despair as you might think.


M: 62
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Bomb dropped: October 2012
R: 4-2014

I've never regretted saying "I'm sorry"
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