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I'm confused here, your wife is still with the other man right?


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PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months
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Ontheup,
Yes she's still with OM. This isn't bomb drop OM but OM3 I'll say and they've been involved for months now. She still communicates with OM1 I'm guessing because they work in same building and my D9 is friends with his daughter. OM3 has pretty much moved in or is over so so much from what I can tell.

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Me:30 W:34
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D:9 D:4 D:3 S:4 S:1
D bomb: 8/2014
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I cant see that there is anything to save here?

Your wife has been with 3 different men and by all accounts has no intention of ever coming back to you.

I would just keep moving forward with your life. She wanted out, she has that now so surely she should be happy.
Over time it gets easier and easier and you think about the situation les and less.

Ad far as any interaction with her I would just keep it about the children and finances. There really is nothing else to talk about.


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D:8
T:13 M:10
WAW: 7/14
PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months
Moved out and moved on

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Ontheup,
Thanks for the encouraging words. That's pretty much how our interactions are with each other. Still legally married but living separated. No date set to talk again, but we've both agreed our finances aren't where they should be to divorce. We still share the asset of two homes, one rental which we both pay on and on the to keep a rental. The marital home which I pay, and one of the vehicles which she pays.

Sometimes I wish she'd come back and want to work on the marriage and sometimes I don't. Nonetheless, I'm in a better place now coming up past a year since bomb drop.


Me:30 W:34
M:8 T:9
D:9 D:4 D:3 S:4 S:1
D bomb: 8/2014
S 12/2014
PA Confirmed in 3/2015 if I recall correctly
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