Ours is -- by its very nature -- an adversarial legal system. There's a reason why they put that little "v" in between the names of the parties. If she gives you cr*p about it, say "I let the attorney handle that; that's what I was advised to do."
Second that ^^^.
All in favor...."I"
HP, wishing you and S12 all the best.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Called my brother in South Florida and told him my plan to file D. His W works for the school I want to send S12. She also knows all about the public schools down there. Another fantastic thing in this sitch.
S12 had a basketball game tonight. XW sent me an email about it on Sunday. Sent me another email about it today. Then, when S12 called her and asked if she would come see him play, she said she thought his game was tomorrow night so she had to work tonight. She did not show at his game. I'm no longer surprised at all.
S12 had a good game but missed a shot and took it hard. I focused on him and talked with him. He felt better but still went to bed unhappy about everything.
I felt some sadness this morning. Filing for D is not what I wanted when I came here. I don't know how this D thing works. I'm feel some fear that I'll be tied to where ever and how ever XW wants to live b/c I will not be away from my son.
Tomorrow I find out what I can do and if what I want for myself and S12 is possible I'll set this D in motion.
Today frustrated XW sent a text... "God HP. Why can't you just answer my questions?"
My answer is coming soon enough.
Me: 44 W: 45 S: 11 Married: 15 Together: 18 BD: 9/29/2014 OM discovered: 10/16/2014 I left her behind: 12/14/2014
It sounds as though you are feeling comfortable with deciding to file for D. Moving also sounds like a big part of that for you guys. I'm not sure how far you are from S. Florida and what options there may be for moving area. I hope that's something it's possible for you to do.
Does your W also have links down there? Just as you feel you don't want to 'follow' her around, she may feel the same and not want to 'follow' you around. Not to put a dampner on your plans, but sounds as though they need your W's co-operation - and that may be a big 'but.' I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you HP....HP, is it a bit funny to call your W your XW already? You guys aren't D yet....what's that all about?
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
HP, good luck with this process. It won't be easy, but if you are convinced it's the right thing, then stay the course.
Can I ask an obvious question.....what's your plan for OW once you move down here? Doesn't she live in Miami, or Ft. Lauderdale? Don't know where you are moving, but seems like driving distance to me...
You have come some ways throughout this journey. I am sorry that you've had come to the painful conclusion that filing for a D is the best path forward for you and S12.
I sincerely do hope you have a very good L in your corner for I suspect that W will try to twist things and make life a bit difficult for you (and possibly S12 as well).
