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Thanks, MCS. That would have irked the sh!t out of me three months ago. I still have some anger towards her and the sitch, but I've had enough room from her now that I'm not gonna bite on any bait.

No reply from my text yesterday. Tomorrow I have my weekly IC, so I'll run this all by her.

I'm getting impatient with WAW. This is all so stupid.


Me: 39 W: 46
D: 7.5 S: 5
SD: 16 SS: 12
T: 2 (06/2012)
M: 2 (12/2012)
Separation 09/2014. No talks of D yet. No communication since 10/3/2014
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Good IC session this morning. I'm thinking that my WAW really thinks I was in the wrong and she was/is 100% in the right and just can't come off that POV. My IC thinks that her not filing is a way for my W to feel some control b/c she feels she hasn't had any. Ironically, I feel like my W always cut me out of the loop on critical family decisions. But I digress...

It also seems like she's stressing how bad off she is financially. And blaming me for that, perhaps?


My hopes for this recent bout of contact to be a sign of this D being busted are vanishing. I think a D is inevitable.

I've decided to go NC until she reaches out first again. I'm very low on money, but decided to cash out the 529 plans I established for her kids and use a bit of that money to get a lawyer.


Me: 39 W: 46
D: 7.5 S: 5
SD: 16 SS: 12
T: 2 (06/2012)
M: 2 (12/2012)
Separation 09/2014. No talks of D yet. No communication since 10/3/2014
Joined: Dec 2014
Posts: 116
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I think I am done DBing. The DB program really helped me to preserve my sanity and my integrity, but the M feels over. I'm in no rush to file for D, but I don't want to work to save the M any more.

I am beginning to get excited about my move to my home state at the end of May and I'm beginning to get excited by the idea of meeting someone new some day. Four months ago I couldn't imaging ever having a full life without my W. Now, however, even though there's still some sadness in my heart and I know I'm not ready to be with anyone long-term right now, I completely believe that the best is still ahead. I feel closer to myself (and my kids) than I have in quite some time.

I have an appointment with an atty this Wednesday to ask him some questions about moving without filing, costs of uncontested D, etc.


Me: 39 W: 46
D: 7.5 S: 5
SD: 16 SS: 12
T: 2 (06/2012)
M: 2 (12/2012)
Separation 09/2014. No talks of D yet. No communication since 10/3/2014
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