Ok, opportunity presented itself today for me to talk to the wife. We were having a little bit of a sweet moment on the phone and I told her that I knew how important om1 and d7's relationship was to her. I told her I understood what she was trying to do and that I wanted to move that direction and maybe more. I said I don't want to fight about om1 ever again. It's just not worth it.
I prayed and prayed about what I was supposed to say and that God would help me form the words and present an opportunity for me to say it and for her to hear it. God delivered in less than an hour. My wife received it well.
Hope,I do love my wife like that I just need to get a whole lot better at showing it. This makes me so uncomfortable to make the phone call that I made but I know it's what's right for my wife.
Originally Posted By: Jefe
I just went back through our portraits spanning the years since D7 was born and gathered several poses from each year and made him a package. I can't believe I just did that.
Hope, after you got done tearing me a new one, I turned Joyce Meyer on and her message basically hit me between the eyes as well.
7 times 70 times, right?
Originally Posted By: Hope
Did you just say you made OM1 a package of photos of D7 spanning every year from when she was born until now?
If this is what you did...this is an amazingly unselfish act of empathy to the biological father. Especially knowing how you feel about him.
I can't imagine how difficult this was for you.
70 x 700.
Originally Posted By: Jefe
Yes, that is what I said. I'm not sure how I feel about it yet. I was guided and led, that's all I can say.
They are supposed to go visit that family next weekend at the park. I'll send them then. I haven't told my wife yet. I figure I'll tell her when I give them to her.
By the way, forgot to mention. She was off today and stopped by the house to start some of her laundry and LOTS of little acts of service all over the place here and elsewhere. Crazy.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
Re: Need help. Jefe's confused pt 4
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Sounds like you're going strong. You'll continue to slip up sometimes, I do often, but remember to dust yourself off and get back up. You've got momentum based on reality and a clear mind focused on yourself.
The affair fog is based on fantasy and can't hold up forever....
Proverbs 24:16 for the righteous falls seven times and rises again, but the wicked stumble in times of calamity.
UpperCut Me: 28 W: 25 Married: 4 yrs Together: 7 yrs Dday: 9/14 (W ends affair & comes home) S: 12/14 (W restarted affair 1/15; moved near OM 2/15) No kids
Hey Jefe - Someone at church recently told me that I've been a source of inspiration to others. He said that I have stood up like a wall. I see the same thing in you. But - I know it's our savior standing us up, so we can be strong in him. Keep giving it over to him when you feel weak.
Me:40 W:39 M:Dec 95 Split: Jul 14 W Filed: 9/16/14 Several Children (including adopted)