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MOVIE MOTIVATION.

Yes.

Take out the trash!

By gum, I am going to take out the trash.


M:54, H:55
T:33, M:27
12/13 BD: EA
01/14 BD: PA, H leaves
03/14 H & OW break up
05/14 H says he will file for D
08/14 H initiates D
09/14 H wants to R
12/14 Still bungling our way through R
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Nitty, emotionally, I'm right there with you. But you are DB'n. Please remember one thing.

It's his trash to take out. State your boundaries. Let him choose to respect them, or not.

(((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))


Me: 43 XW: 43
T15 M14
D21, SS15, S11, D8
BD: 8/6
EA / possible PA discovered 9/29
D final 10/20
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Nitty, don't feel guilty. We're all envious, but not one of us would wish you to be back in the DB stage with us. We're all happy for you and praying that things will work out for you. You're a great person, and you deserve to be happy!! Piecing is hard work, so feel free to vent all you want.


M 16 T 17
W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...
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AMEN^^^


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
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Something is happening... OW just blocked me from her FB profile.

Before I get a bunch of 2' x 4's, hear me out.

I spent a large part of this MLC not DBing. FB was a huge source of intel once I got the BD. OW and I were FB friends because we were friends IRL before the BD (at least I thought we were friends).

The day H told her he gave me the BD, she changed her profile pic for the first time in 2 years. She began posting quotes about "seizing happiness when it comes" and "not caring what the world thinks about us". H "liked" everything she posted.

Even though she knew I knew about her, she did not defriend me. I did not defriend her because, hello, INTEL. The three of us remained FB friends.

It was like a game of chicken. She knew I knew. She continued to "like" only those posts and photos of him that did not contain any family members. He continued to "like" everything she posted, even though we were in MC.

She finally defriended the both of us -- just before H left me me to go back to her. Those were awful days. I would review her FB public profile almost hourly, looking for profile pic changes, checking to see if she and H became friends again (they didn't).

Then I found this forum and began DBing in earnest. I started weaning myself off FB stalking. I limited myself to peeking at their profiles once a day, then once a week, and by the time I got to once a month I would forget to look. Because I was GAL.

Last week I felt Mr. Gritty was serious about reconciling so I decided to block her. I looked at her public profile for the first time in a long while. I found I couldn't go through with it because how would I know if she and Mr. Gritty became friends again? I prayed on it, finally got up the balls to block her, went to do it yesterday and guess what?

She already blocked me! She actually made an action to secure her privacy against me and she did it within the last 7 days.

I am not going to tell anybody I've been blocked, only you guys. Nobody but you will understand my former stalker status as a Pre-DBer. And all of you will understand why it would be stupid to let anybody else know, especially Mr. Gritty.

But... something is happening on her end. She is going to do something. Just what, I don't know. More important is how H responds.


M:54, H:55
T:33, M:27
12/13 BD: EA
01/14 BD: PA, H leaves
03/14 H & OW break up
05/14 H says he will file for D
08/14 H initiates D
09/14 H wants to R
12/14 Still bungling our way through R
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Hey Nitty,

I'm still behind on your sitch, but your OW sounds like mine. They are really pi$$ed when our H want to try and work out things with us and will try anything to sabotage our families!

I haven't posted my craziness from this weekend yet, but FB is turning into a big foe of mine. And definitely don't tell Mr. Gritty about your FB stalking. Mine is still upset from 3 years ago when I messaged his OW to tell her thank you for opening my eyes to my sitch. She didn't tell him, I did. We can keep your secret wink


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T: 19 M:12
S:11
D:9
BD: 5/4/14
Proof of OW 8/13/14-love note from her
8/19 admits OW
8/22/14 files D w/o telling me
9/20/14 Says he wants to reconcile
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Nitty, I get sucked into the Facebook trap too. My wife "unfriended" me Sat in retaliation because I stupidly brought up the di*k picture I found on her phone back in Aug.

I would keep it on the DL until you have more intel.


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
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I have never had a Facebook account. I feel that my life is much more fulfilling as a result. wink

But, I can crack an iPhone, if anyone's interested. smile

(shakspr is bad, mm-kay. snooping's bad. Don't snoop and don't shakspr.)

Going to bed now. Nitty, I'll get back to you sometime tomorrow.


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T15 M14
D21, SS15, S11, D8
BD: 8/6
EA / possible PA discovered 9/29
D final 10/20
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Lol, crack iPhone, isn't that done by dropping the damn thing! wink

Oh well, just keep on keeping on kids.


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T 11y
Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads!
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Nitty

Yeah ... ITs safe here .. if anyone understands the FB stalking thing its all of us here. My W unfriended me some time ago (red flag I didnt see) ... to her it was the 3 strike rule, however she can not tell me what the first 2 strikes are at this point. She has me blocked, a few months ago she had unblocked me .. but OM "liked" and commented on a pic... she blocked me probably to avoid me blowing up. However her page was public back then so I could still see everything ... Intel in a way .. but I was not getting much. I think she has private settings now, like you I have slowed down the stalking and its helped me. There is still alot of curiosity on my end .. but its not as bad as it once was.


M: 48
W: 47
M16 T26-S8
BD Sept13



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