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Should I post this letter on the OP's facebook page?

How do you feel about yourself knowing that you destroyed a marriage by having an affair with a man's wife? Not only have you destroyed our marriage but my daughter's future as well. Now she can't be together with her mommy and daddy the way she wants. She keeps telling me don't give up daddy, keep trying with mommy. But what she doesn't understand is as long as this affair goes on there's no fixing our marriage. I asked you respectfully to stop and let us work on our marriage and you said ok. Not only did you not do that but you gave me a fake name as well. What kind of person are you? How can you live with yourself? You think God would approve of what you've done? It's not too late. You can still make things right. I'm asking you respectfully once more. Stop this and let me try to reconcile my marriage and give my daughter the future that she deserves.


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No


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Do you honestly think that would bring your wife back?


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She believed she could, so she did.
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Yea. Gotta go with the no on that one


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a big NO...very big NOOOOO


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Posting that will not make your W want to work on your M. Your W is choosing to participate in this too. Take the high road.


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No. This kind of approach is more likely to anger your wife. It's also likely to position you even more as the kind of person that she wouldn't want to be with and give her more ways to validate the choices she's making because you'll appear to be the bad guy.

If you absolutely must write something, write it in a password protected file on your computer. Use it to vent and get out everything you want to say in a safe, private way.


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No no no no no.

I'm sure we all have a whole boatload of vitriol we'd like to fling at the OP, but it's really better not to.

Repeat after all of us. Focus on YOU. Work on YOU.

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No.

Stop expecting a man with zero honor to do the honorable thing.

Don't negotiate with your enemy. You VANQUISH your enemy.


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BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

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