I'm sorry mr. Bond. I think I'm a little dense right now. Could you explain your last response?
Just to clarify... Anytime I get more time with my son I take it. I would've taken my son today but before I could explain that I could take him she told me she had it covered. Also, she would've had to drop him off here at 5:30am.
Actually, as it turns out she didnt even go to her fundraiser thing. She didnt explain why she didn't go, just that it had nothing to do with me. She was very upbeat and happy today when I saw her though. Weird.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
"Just to clarify... Anytime I get more time with my son I take it."
This says it all? Why should you just "take" whatever she gives you? Start listing YOUR terms and say what YOU want rather than just accepting whatever she decides to throw your way. Which, incidentally, will be scraps.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
The whole scheduling thing isn't an issue. I'm not getting scraps when it comes to seeing my boy. I see him everyday and take care of him at least 75% of the time. I couldn't ask for more time.
My issue is how I deal with her crazy. I may sound crazy by calling her crazy. I've set up an appointment with my IC so she can help solve these issues. My IC knows how unbalanced my ex is so she might be able to help me figure out a way to handle her.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
It's been awhile and I'm sure the people I knew here are gone but anyway....
About 2 months ago my ex said she was 5 weeks pregnant with douchebag. She also said she might miscarry in a week. I haven't heard either way since nor do I care.
I can confidently say that I'm detached from her nonsense. I've been doing my own thing and gone through my share of ups and downs without her in my thoughts.... Meaning, I'm living my own life with little regard to what she feels or thinks. The ups and downs have nothing to do with her. That might not come across accurately... Basically, I'm living my life without thinking of her. She still seems very dramatic with her life and I really don't care anymore. The sh*t she says to me is mind blowing. I won't get into but it's to the point where I feel bad for her.
Anyway,im feeling good and my son is still the most important thing to me. Work and side jobs are going nicely.
I just want to say sh*t does get easier. I was a total wreck early on, but I've picked my ass up and I know you newcomers can too.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
Glad things are improving and looking up. Reading through, it almost sounds like she had/has a substance abuse issue. All over the place. But the good news is you've detached and moving on. Onward and upward for your boy!
Me: 40 W: 40 22 Years together, 14 Married D8 + D7 Aug 2012 - Separated Sep / Oct - Back Together May 2014 - WAW / Divorce Bomb / Separation Jun/Jul - Suspected Other man / Confirmed Now - WAW moving out
My ex never had substance abuse issues. Just "regular" abuse plus a lot of other personal issues. None of which are any of my concern now. She's just not very emotionally mature.
There are things about me that still bother her and I don't know why. I'm so dark with her and when I do see her I'm happy. I don't provoke her in any way. I think she's just addicted to drama. Oh well....
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Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
Wow, it's been awhile since I've been here. Thanks for replying missmygirl
Things are amazing with me and my son. I have him the majority of the time and I'm super involved with his preschool and daycare. I've been to about 7 parent Helper days at his school where my ex hasn't done 1. My daycare lady only sees me and we converse regularly regarding my son.
Work has been really good, well my side jobs anyway. I've done some really nice stuff to some really expensive homes. All on my own which is satisfying.
My ex is pregnant again and is probably expecting in the fall/winter. I'm not even sure. We get along nicely since I'm always cheery around her. She still has her grumpy days but I don't question her anymore. She still tries to pry into my life but I'll tell her about my dating life when it concerns her.
Speaking of dating life. I've met some nice girls. I met one that was really into me and then she poofed. No real reason. Kinda made me upset but I've been through worse. Right now I'm involved with another girl who is also really into me. We're considered bf/gf so we'll see where this goes. I really like her and I know she likes me. She seems really interested in meeting my son which is a huge bonus. Fingers crossed on this girl.
Anyway, I guess this is enough of an update. Good luck to all of you who are going through the sh*t storm.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
