Congrats on your amazing journey! I'm certainly impressed by your physical training. I competed in CrossFit a year after my divorce and nothing felt so good.... Keep it up...
A fellow Midwesterner but now Coloradoan.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Golfgirl - thanks for stopping by and thanks! I understand CrossFit's pretty tough so congratulations to you. And I guess I'm a Midwesterner with deep Southern roots.
gunny - the weather's been pretty prohibitive toward too much biking. I think I've gotten in about 196 miles all year. I've been relegated to spinning inside. I've also used the time I would've biked and ran outside instead. So that's how inadvertently started training for a half marathon. I did a pretty good number on my body last weekend when rode 42 miles on Saturday and ran 11 miles on Sunday, LOL.
Quick update on my end. My L had received the final paperwork last week for the D. I drove down to her office yesterday and signed it. So now it's a matter of submitting the paperwork to the courts, we'll have a hearing scheduled, and I will cross the finish line of this metaphorical ultramarathon. At least ostensibly. There's been enough twists and turns during this whole situation that another one is very possible.
To be honest, at this point, I am just excited about my future. I was ironically in really good spirits yesterday when I was driving back from my L's office. It was similar to that feeling of excitement when you've made a new friend. Maybe it was me meeting my future yesterday.
On the personal level, I'm excited to report I ran a half marathon for the first time in my life last month. I'm still keeping in shape and making new friends along the way. Staying very busy as always.
I will say this situation is taking its toll on my S. He is struggling with school this year. I think it's a culmination of several factors: he's 13, he starts school almost 2 hours earlier than in elementary school, first year in Junior High School, and of course the family situation. He is also with me every school night. That has created more overhead for me than I anticipated. I think he's also missing time with his Mom. I'm sure he needs time with his Mom, even if she doesn't have it together.
Speaking of my W, the good news we are actually getting along pretty well. I think moving forward with D, ironically, has helped with that. There are times during exchanges of my S we will talk for up to an hour. The three of us will periodically go out to dinner together and it's typically a nice, relaxed conversation. That all being said, there are no signs of a desire to get back together. Again, we've taken drastically different directions in our lives. Sad to say, often times my S will visit and she will sleep into the afternoon. Her house is cluttered. She doesn't get out and do too much. She spends a lot of time on dating sites according to my S. It's sad, it's almost like she's looking for someone else to fix her rather than taking on the responsibility herself.
"To be honest, at this point, I am just excited about my future. I was ironically in really good spirits yesterday when I was driving back from my L's office. It was similar to that feeling of excitement when you've made a new friend. Maybe it was me meeting my future yesterday. "
Hi JB! Well it looks like you are reaching the finish line of this ultra marathon, I'm glad to hear you are in good spirits!
Congrats on half marathon, hopefully your cycling weather will get better and you can get more miles
All the best bud!
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
JBNATI: I used to run Marathon's and now I feel like this M is a sprint. Anyway, you wrote, "...Sad to say, often times my S will visit and she will sleep into the afternoon. Her house is cluttered. She doesn't get out and do too much. She spends a lot of time on dating sites according to my S. It's sad, it's almost like she's looking for someone else to fix her rather than taking on the responsibility herself. frown" I caught this and think you might be onto her and that she will be like others, wake up and know she went on her journey and found herself at the end. That's what I hope happens to your ?xW. She is trying to find happiness and seems depressed by the way you're describing her situation. You never know what will happen next. That is for sure.
"To be honest, at this point, I am just excited about my future. I was ironically in really good spirits yesterday when I was driving back from my L's office. It was similar to that feeling of excitement when you've made a new friend. Maybe it was me meeting my future yesterday. "
Hi JB! Well it looks like you are reaching the finish line of this ultra marathon, I'm glad to hear you are in good spirits!
Congrats on half marathon, hopefully your cycling weather will get better and you can get more miles
All the best bud!
Newman
Thanks Newman! Actually the weather has improved and the cycling miles are adding up! I did my first century this year last month, and now I'm contemplating a crazy idea of possibly doing the RAIN (Ride across Indiana) ride.
Hey Jb, Congrats on the half marathon, any more in the future?
Hey gunny! Great to hear from you! No half marathons in the immediate future. My heel took a beating (plantar fasciitis) in the one in March, and now I'm only running 3-5 miles, once a week. However, the weather's been good enough to really pick up on the cycling mileage.
I'm still keeping in shape and making new friends along the way. Staying very busy as always.