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Moving into My Future #2414148
12/13/13 05:10 AM
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Hi, everyone here! I am new to this forum, but it I was overdue to move here.

Short version of my story-- have been DBing for 2 years-- BD was 1 1/2+ years ago though.STBX was in an EA and continues this A.

We filed for D on 11-26-13. We are trying mediation but things are starting off well at all.

We never fought in our M, but now everything is a battle. DBing went out the window for me-- I think I had been holding things in for so long & filtering EVERYTHING I said and did that now I just tend to say what I need to say and my actions are what I think I need to do (not what I think he might react best to).

We have 3 boys who live with me in their home they have grown up in. CUrrently their dad visits them at our home after school each day and they stay overnight one weekend night.

We are fighting over custody first and finances second. He wants them 50% of the time after them living almost eclusively with me for the past year we've been separated. I am having a very difficult time coming to terms with not being a full-time mom any more when the D is all said and done.

ON the positive side of my life... I have been dating a guy I will call pianoman (as he romances me with his beautiful piano-playing)! We've been dating 6 weeks...and I am having the time of my life! He has been everything I've been missing in my life for sooooo long!

Of course I realize I am vulnerable and am just trying to live in the moment and not think too far in the future about this R...although he already mentions us being together long-term (which actually makes me feel giddy!). smile

ANyway, I've read many threads here tonight and wanted to hear from you all the trials and tribulations that you are going through in your D's (or went through). Thanks in advance!


M- 18 T-21
S-14,11 & 10
BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA)
H moved out 11-3-2012
10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life.
11-25-13 Jointly filed.
Re: Moving into My Future [Re: littleGTO] #2414149
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aren't starting off mediation well frown


M- 18 T-21
S-14,11 & 10
BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA)
H moved out 11-3-2012
10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life.
11-25-13 Jointly filed.
Re: Moving into My Future [Re: littleGTO] #2414415
12/13/13 11:26 PM
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Swing for the fences, once the papers are signed it's hard to change them. You can always relax the order on your own and allow him more time or whatever, but the order sets the tone.

Best of luck... (((GTO)))


You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
Re: Moving into My Future [Re: subguy] #2414428
12/14/13 12:17 AM
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keep posting, I'll be following.
I am doing now what you refer to...still filtering. showing my best self...
Know I might have to play hard ball well, because that is what seems to happen. It is a D afterall....
still trying to come to terms with this new normal


M48 H50
M21 T26
S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old
PA confirmed 7/2012
H separates 9/2012
H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY
OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
Re: Moving into My Future [Re: littleGTO] #2414755
12/15/13 05:31 PM
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Hey GTO!

I just caught this wow surviving big D...yes I think I will be in this side of the forums shortly. I've got to update my thread just been busy. But in short I got off the limbo train since last thanksgiving.

Anyway will be reading your post.

Regards,
Newman


me40; W43
M18; T~20
D18; S13 & S3
bomb 5/9/11
EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM

Separated 4/1/14

"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.


Re: Moving into My Future [Re: newman7977] #2426178
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Hi GTO, how are things?


M46,W41
D16,D18
M22,T25
BD 11/12
W moved out 01/13
Piecing 10/13
Divorced 01/15
"Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can."
UrWorthy

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