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#2394262 10/15/13 07:55 PM
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Apology from the OP

If you can find compassion for her now, then you can find compassion for OPs not yet this far along in terms of health and wisdom.

Compassion heals.


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I figure she's on the fifth step of a 12-step program.

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Sorry - I'm not buying it. Call me uncompassionate (is that a word)?, but I live every day with children who have a lousy R with their dad, their lives have been changed & so has mine. She continues to behave badly & disrespect us. I choose to ignore it. I choose to live a better life. I have not sought revenge & I have learned to not bad mouth her to my children.

I know that my ex is every bit as responsible for what happened. But truly - it is hard to protect your marriage from a predator. One who wets their sights on your spouse, carefully crafts a plan and ensures he gets caught.

Not all OP are created equal. For my part - I choose to NOT forgive & forget.

And I'm good with that, thanks!

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G - I think she is trying to sell her book.

Personally - I think lepers like her and the others should be taken to some deserted island & left there. And there must be snakes - yep - has to be snakes!!!

LOL - I'm venomous!

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Ok I forgave ex and OW a while back but that does not mean I have warm and fuzzy feelings about them. I would look at this gal's apology with several grains of salt because, gee, she has a book she is trying to sell. Ulterior motive is flashing in big red neon lights for me.

I talked quite a bit to a woman on Infidelity shortly after I found this site. It was my home for a couple of years. It took a lot for me to talk to her and get her side of the story. She was genuine and she was working to save her marriage. We became friends. So I hope I am not seen as being heartless here.

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Kat: every situation, every OP & every LBS are different. And forgiveness is a personal thing. So you did what worked for you & your situation just as I do what I do in mine. And I won't change my mind. I do not want her to be part of my life & neither do my children. But that's our prerogative.

Anyway - to each his own

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Barn? - that's funny!

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Sorry not buying it, do you really think she would have written this apology letter if things had worked out with Edwards.

She would be loving the limelight in Washington, red carpets and the like.

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Sorry not buying it, do you really think she would have written this apology letter if things had worked out with Edwards.

She would be loving the limelight in Washington, red carpets and the like.

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I'm not sure anyone ever forgives the orher person. Yoi forgive your ex spouse, because you need to be able to have some sort of a normal life whatever that looks like. But why do you need to forgive the OP?..

To me that seems like giving them too must respect even after they took an active part in ruining your kids normal life. Not happening soon.

My father in law finally saw the man who took my mother in law away from her family. It was after 19 years, and he said he still had to hold back from beating his a$$.


Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
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