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Re: My Story - Need Help... Is there hope? [Re: AnotherStander] #2399693
11/01/13 03:09 AM
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It has been a while since I last posted. Many crazy things have happened in my life. I'll avoid that whole story and just give an update that only relates to this...

She wrote me a half-hearten apology denying any wrong and regretting nothing. I have yet to respond. She is getting married to the guy. Love to hear the thoughts of the community.


together 7+yrs
Married 3
Me 33
W 33
no kids
BD 9/12
MC 9/12
W leaves MC 10/12
W moves out 11/12
Divorce 2/13
W moves 5/13
NC 05/13
D final 8/13
Re: My Story - Need Help... Is there hope? [Re: truelovewaits] #2399698
11/01/13 03:25 AM
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Sorry true…a punch in the stomach is just how it feels. I wouldn't respond to her what will it change? Continue to be good to yourself. It will take a long time to get over this. That marriage probably won't last. I know it doesn't make you feel better but still.

Take care.


M44 H41
M20 T23
3 older teens
Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy"
EA Nov 09 w/coworker
Another PA in Mar 10
I Filed Apr 10
D final Dec 10
Re: My Story - Need Help... Is there hope? [Re: luvless] #2399830
11/01/13 03:32 PM
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I agree with Luvless, no response is needed. Based on what you described it doesn't sound like it deserves the dignity of a response. DB'ing often triggers a soul-searching in the WAS that hopefully leads to growth on their part, but unfortunately it doesn't always work that way. Maybe your W will get there some day, but maybe she won't. But if she doesn't then she's doomed to repeat her failure in the next relationship.


Me: 58 w/ S16, D22, D25
Current R: 4 years
Previous M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:56
Re: My Story - Need Help... Is there hope? [Re: AnotherStander] #2399989
11/02/13 01:41 AM
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Thanks for the advice. I wouldn't even know where to begin to respond. I just feel this whole thing is tragic and wish it just went differently. So many regrets, yet it seems she doesn't have any. The thing is I don't want anything but happiness for her. I really hope her new relationship doesn't fail- at the same time I would have liked to try to see if we could have made it work. Still, I know life moves forward and that there are others, I just still feel it is a waste to abandon a relationship that was so strong and significant for so long.

Anyway, thanks for the support. I'd love to hear any additional support and/or advice regarding this.


together 7+yrs
Married 3
Me 33
W 33
no kids
BD 9/12
MC 9/12
W leaves MC 10/12
W moves out 11/12
Divorce 2/13
W moves 5/13
NC 05/13
D final 8/13
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