Sorry true…a punch in the stomach is just how it feels. I wouldn't respond to her what will it change? Continue to be good to yourself. It will take a long time to get over this. That marriage probably won't last. I know it doesn't make you feel better but still.
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
Re: My Story - Need Help... Is there hope?
#2399830 11/01/1303:32 PM11/01/1303:32 PM
I agree with Luvless, no response is needed. Based on what you described it doesn't sound like it deserves the dignity of a response. DB'ing often triggers a soul-searching in the WAS that hopefully leads to growth on their part, but unfortunately it doesn't always work that way. Maybe your W will get there some day, but maybe she won't. But if she doesn't then she's doomed to repeat her failure in the next relationship.
Me: 58 w/ S16, D22, D25 Current R: 4 years Previous M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:56
Thanks for the advice. I wouldn't even know where to begin to respond. I just feel this whole thing is tragic and wish it just went differently. So many regrets, yet it seems she doesn't have any. The thing is I don't want anything but happiness for her. I really hope her new relationship doesn't fail- at the same time I would have liked to try to see if we could have made it work. Still, I know life moves forward and that there are others, I just still feel it is a waste to abandon a relationship that was so strong and significant for so long.
Anyway, thanks for the support. I'd love to hear any additional support and/or advice regarding this.
together 7+yrs Married 3 Me 33 W 33 no kids BD 9/12 MC 9/12 W leaves MC 10/12 W moves out 11/12 Divorce 2/13 W moves 5/13 NC 05/13 D final 8/13