XH accidentally ran into youngest D a couple of weeks ago, and grandson didn't know who he was. That's how long it's been since he's had contact with them. That has set off a rash of midnight texts ( which the girls suspect he is drunk)saying he misses them etc. I'm sure having his grandson look him in the eyes and not know who he was was upsetting, but what did he expect. He has made no effort to see them even when he came to town. Always demanded they come see him, and in doing so, accept the OW. Package Deal. Now he has grandsons who no longer know who he is, one he has only seen a few seconds, and one on the way he doesn't even know about, and may never know. It's so maddening.
Gunny - good terms? What's that? XH is doing everything in his power to keep me from getting the 50% of his retirement that I am entitled to. Going so far as to tern down concurrent retirement/disability in favor of just Disability. Now we have to go back to court. It's like this stuff never ends.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
So sad, Punkin. I cannot imagine my grandchildren not knowing me. It would break my heart more than my H's betrayal.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Well, it appears we are going back to court AGAIN. If he wants me out of his life so badly, why doesn't he just do as the court says; then I wouldn't have any reason to contact him at all. My Lawyer has asked, twice, nicely, for info on XH's retirement, and no answer at all. Now L has filed a motion to have my alimony increased to cover the amount of money he has blocked me out of due to his underhandedness. I shouldn't let it, but this crap has a way of roadblocking my getting on with my own life.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
