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so today ow is on the front page of our local paper. yep it's true. eeek-god! she is freakin everywhere. can't even drink my coffee in the a.m. without being reminded of her. but of course she has it all going on. how can it be that this woman is always in the news? all good environmental/educational crap of course. this was the first year i didn't get even a valentine's card from h. and i found a keyring marked "mail" in h's belongings. not even sure (but somewhat sure) they are still seeing each other. whenever i have asked, he has denied.


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abbey, I am sorry you are still having to put up with this.


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I'm sorry to read you are still dealing with this. I was hoping something had changed.


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Abbey -

Well - do you want to know or not?

If you want to know - hire a P.I. and get the information you need.

If you don't want to know - well, that's a different matter. But just know that you don't HAVE to stay stuck here if you choose not to be. It's a choice you are making.

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some times a typhoon hits when they go on a week long vacation together so you get to read about it and hear it on the news everyday.... You will catch affairs etc... more and more while it is the main focus in your life. Then it will fade again.


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"Oh what a tangled web we weave, When first we practise to deceive!" Sir Walter Scott

Have pretty much confirmed that my H has been living a double life. I discovered that he has a P.O. box and secret bank account. I believe it is due to him helping OW on her new house and a workers comp claim (a carpenter fell off of a ladder) on her property back in June 2012. Previous to this week, the only real proof that I had that he was assisting her homebuilding efforts was public information. He was the person calling the County for this inspection or that inspection.

I am really upset because in looking at just two of the bank statements that I found, $1500 has been paid out. I'm guessing to the injured guy who is not or has ever been our "official" employee.

I am SO upset that this guy who was injured - and I hope he is OK but don't know who he is....and I am worried that he could sue us for all we are worth.

Gosh I am really considering hiring an attorney soon. Never thought it might come to this. But when the savings that we have accrued (from my HARD work at a corporate company for 20 years) is being squandered away. That *ucks.


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But the good thing is I have a new little lovable basset hound who give lots of kisses and makes me smile every day!


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I think it is time to consult a lawyer......


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Yes, it's time. You don't need his legal liabilities related to secret work for OW, to come back and bite you in the butt. And this sounds complicated - if the guy wasn't "on the books" as a legal employee, how does he get workman's comp? Who is liable - your H, or the insurance company of the OW?

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P.S. If I wasn't going out of town today, I'd meet you for a drink. (((hug))))

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