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Re: How to make it work again? [Re: scaredsilly] #2362629
06/29/13 05:36 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear about this but at the same time I'm glad you're BOTH working through this! Please don't hold back in journaling. Sometimes we're (DBers) the only ones who can truly understand where you're coming from.
Sending you lots of hugs SS!


M 42 H 39
T10 (-2yrs separation)
S8 D5
DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA)
Reconciled 6/2013
Separation in works 1/2017
Re: How to make it work again? [Re: 2chiquitos] #2362852
06/30/13 03:04 PM
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D@mn, SS! I dont' know that I would have had the fortitude.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
Re: How to make it work again? [Re: labug] #2362888
06/30/13 06:00 PM
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Bug, it's day to day, sometimes, minute to minute. There are many times during a day that I just want to run away from all the memories. But, they would follow.

My H is treating me better, more lovingly, and more patiently than he has in our 17 years together. He continues to let me know he doesn't want to lose me and is committed, not only to me and our marriage, but to being a better man and husband. He's positive our marriage will be better than it ever was.

I just wish these feeling had come along before I had to go through the pain of infidelity.


M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing

Re: How to make it work again? [Re: scaredsilly] #2365018
07/08/13 03:15 AM
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Originally Posted By: scaredsilly
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I just wish these feeling had come along before I had to go through the pain of infidelity.


same here. I agree!!


M 42 H 39
T10 (-2yrs separation)
S8 D5
DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA)
Reconciled 6/2013
Separation in works 1/2017
Re: How to make it work again? [Re: 2chiquitos] #2365138
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Thanks, 2ch. From all I've read, we're in for one heck of a rollercoaster ride. I set my calendar for one year from d-day to decide on staying or not. A lot will depend on H's changes; whether they stick or not.


M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing

Re: How to make it work again? [Re: scaredsilly] #2398219
10/27/13 11:14 PM
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Hey SS, just stopping in to say I've been thinking about you. I haven't been able to spend any time on the board lately, but I still think often about some of the people I've gotten to know, you being one of them. I hope things are going well for you. I know you still had a few kinks to work out, and you had a d-date for things being healthy. I hope the lack of posts on your part are from shear satisfaction with your life and M! Take care!


Me:49 WAW H:59
T:19.5 M:19
S:13
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