Trying not to read into things and not have any exspectations. She didn't give me a fathers day gift when she dropped the kids off saturday and was cold. But when I dropped them off yesterday, she gave me a gift, said sorry for the little gifts that the boys got me and she accidently gave my card to her dad. Then that night at my sons event, she talked my ear off. What ever I guess. Getting ready to take the boys camping with family this weekend. Have a lot to do around the house. This hot weather is driving me nuts, I can handel hot, but when you add the humidity, it's crazy. My son cried last night because he didn't want to stay with her, she just said it's moms time and walked away. How can your kids crying not affect you and make you think that maybe you are doing the wrong thing.
ME 31 / W 29 M 7 / T 13 S 3 / S 5 NOT HAPPY 11/11 BOMB 12/27/11 MOVED OUT 2/12 THINKS D WOULD BE BEST FOR HER 5/14/12 W Files D 6/24/12
I am so sorry. That must be so hot. I am just starting this process so no advice. I can only emphasize with you and how this must be effecting your children. Keep being strong for your children. They need one parent who is doing what is best for them.
Me:29; W:37 T: 6 M: 4 D: 2; SD: 14; SS: 17 H filed D: 6/13/12; H moved out: 6/14/12 H moved back in: 6/28/12 Confirmed EA: 8/12
I took my ring off the other day, figured it was time. Slowly taking pictures down and putting new ones up. Think I might go to an amusement park with a friend at work, yes female. Need to get out and have some adult time. Starting to have days that I don't care if she goes thru with this or not. If she don't great, but if she does I will be okay. Her lose. It's a big lose.
ME 31 / W 29 M 7 / T 13 S 3 / S 5 NOT HAPPY 11/11 BOMB 12/27/11 MOVED OUT 2/12 THINKS D WOULD BE BEST FOR HER 5/14/12 W Files D 6/24/12
Well things are not good. The W served me with papers yesterday. The funny things is we talked more then, than we have in the last few months. I did a lot of things wrong. I didn't cry or get mad, but started to askwhy we can't try and where did things go wrong. Talked for almost 2 hours. I knew this could happen but harder to deal with when it did. I don't know what to do, give up, keep trying, get a lawyer. I had a feeling that this was going to workout, guess not. She said we can cancel it at anytime. Sending me mixed messages, last ten minutes of the talk was not bad, talked like we were just regular friends. Told her I was not going to fight her on this. If it's what I have to do to show you that I love you, then thats what I will do.
ME 31 / W 29 M 7 / T 13 S 3 / S 5 NOT HAPPY 11/11 BOMB 12/27/11 MOVED OUT 2/12 THINKS D WOULD BE BEST FOR HER 5/14/12 W Files D 6/24/12
i'm so sorry, shockeddad. i know this must be so hard to bare, even knowing it was a possibility. i wish i had some great advise but the only thing i can think of is to give it time to sink in and keep DB'ing.
(((sd)))
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
So sorry to hear that you were served. I know how that feels.
I would recommend no longer talking about the R or asking questions at this point. It is actually a good sign that your W thinks that the two of you could "cancel" possibly.
Like SS said, stick to your DB'ing. Take some time for yourself. You asked what to do or think - what do you think?
I really don't know. Just in a daze right now. We haven't talked about the R in over a month. Last night was the first time in awhile. Thursday I will ask her for full pyshical custody of the boys. They can still stay with her like we have been, but think it would be better for them. I will agree to everything else and no lawyers but I want that changed.
ME 31 / W 29 M 7 / T 13 S 3 / S 5 NOT HAPPY 11/11 BOMB 12/27/11 MOVED OUT 2/12 THINKS D WOULD BE BEST FOR HER 5/14/12 W Files D 6/24/12
Still in a state of shock I guess. I knew this was coming but really doesn't it till it happens. My big problem is that I read into stuff to much. I did ask her for a list of what she wanted and she did give it to me with a odd look that I can't explain. Then says Guess I won't see you till tuesday. It's hard to try and move on with life when you love someone so much. Did break a rule, told her sorry for hurting you and the boys and sorry for everything. Life, who knows but the Lord.
ME 31 / W 29 M 7 / T 13 S 3 / S 5 NOT HAPPY 11/11 BOMB 12/27/11 MOVED OUT 2/12 THINKS D WOULD BE BEST FOR HER 5/14/12 W Files D 6/24/12
