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#2255156 06/18/12 03:32 AM
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Well.. it's been a long time since I have been on here but I need to vent some frustration.

Some background: The D was final 3 years ago and A started 6 years ago. My XH has been living with ow on and off for about 4 years I think and is engaged to her. After all of the pain, I have moved on nicely with my life. We actually get along well despite the past so the kid stuff is pretty painless (for me, not the kids). I still can't/won't be civil to ow so it is clear that she is NOT to be around me smirk

The weirdness started happening about a year ago with xh starting to drop statements about missing being married to me, hanging around a bit, and talking about moving out of ow's house. After the move finally happened, the reconciliation hints started up. I was pretty clear that IF that were ever to happen, xh needed to have no contact with ow. My gut was telling me that this was not happening although he was implying that he was "spending time alone". Ha! I guess I define alone differently.

I just really don't get it. Why the heck even bring this subject up if he is technically still with ow? There is no cake-eating for him over here any longer. I just find it all a bit unnerving. I wanted to believe him but wouldn't let myself and yet.. a small part of me did believe him. Unfortunately, it was still all a bunch of bs - all talk/no action. Why do I still feel a little disappointed though?

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Olive,

It's been forever.

This sounds like the same guy you were talking about 5 yrs ago in the summer of 2007. Couldn't decide between you and OW kept ping-ponging. He hasn't changed.

You are disappointed because you still have feelings for him, even though he's a cad.

Move on.

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Oh so good to hear from you! Aren't you just hating this heat?

I think your ex is afraid to be alone and probably thinking if this aren't good with OW, let's see how things might work out with Olive. My ex married his OW. We get along but aren't friends. New wife...same as you, don't bring her around me!

I guess the question you need to ask yourself is what do you see in him that makes you still consider being with him? Have you been dating? That might have got your ex thinking about you. Sounds as if your ex hasn't done any work because gee, he hasn't had to.

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Grass is greener. Always searching for happiness. Didn't find the SOULMATE with OW and is testing the waters. If you are strong enough, let it pass ... with satisfaction.


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Hello my LOVELY-Olive! It has been a long time and though I am not out here on a daily basis anymore I was so happy to see your posting!

Theo is right - you do sound like the 2006-2007 LonelyOlive and that bums me out!

Be strong and don't even entertain his thoughts -they sound just like those from 6 yrs ago - he wants what he cannot have and you are too good for that!

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Theo - please update me on how YOU are doing! You were my rock in such difficult times (we even talked on the phone). I am doing very well but this site is what helped me and you kept me going. For that I will be eternally grateful.

We will be celebrating our 22nd anniversary this September and sometimes it seems like his affair was so so long ago and then there are days where a flashback will bring it to the present. He is still so remorseful and regrets hurting me - but overall we are doing great.

I hope all is well with you and your family!!

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Hey everyone!

Momentary lapse that made me need to post that. Fortunately, I have snapped out of it... ha! Not to worry things are wonderful with me. Life is really really good smile

HB - congrats on the anniversary.. Good for you!!

Theo - yes.. what is up with you? I think you were everyone's rock "back in the day".

kat - for sure he is afraid to be alone. It's that obvious huh? Sounds like you are doing well. Funny how we seem not to just survive but thrive! xh couldn't see to seal the deal and marry ow. Go figure!

CTH - the grass is NEVER greener!!

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Lonely,

Thanks for fond memories of me.

Things didn't work out for us. Going through divorce now.

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Hey Lonely,

Just wanted to say hi. Seems like forever since we all started on here!!!


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