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Hi Alamo

I hope you document this crap behavior and nasty weird texts. She can lose some custody if it keeps up. YES that is "parental alienation", again. Plus she's deliberately interfering with your rights.

She CAN LOSE MORE THAN SHE HAS lost already, but I guess she doesn't know that yet. Maybe you can let her know.

The fact that she called you a 'pedophile" in writing, shows that you are NOT done with that. It's NOT "all over & done with" so don't kid yourself.

Also, ask your L if it's possible for her to try and get some decisions made in her new state, that contradict California's. I'm not sure what was finalized in your case.

Finally, her internship year is going to sukk. IT IS already. She's not going to become nicer to you anytime soon, at least not b/c of her work.

When you say you are moving on, are you getting ready to date? I rather hope that someday soon your son can see you in a healthy r with a happy loving woman.

Imagine what he might learn from seeing that.

How is your job going?

Keep on keeping on and it's truly valuable for people to see the "end of the stories" here. So let us know how you are doing b/c you DO belong here.

((( )))


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
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Thanks much for checking in, 25! Always great to hear from you. Hope you're doing well as well!

My job is going great. After many worries about budget cuts, my department decided to say "screw the year-end budget approval process" and hire me on as a permanent because they saw me as an important enough asset to not lose to another employer. I was an FTE temp prior to this.

Regardless of whether my wife's residency is tres hard or not, one thing seems evident is that her mostly negative emotions and thoughts towards me are stuck in a time warp bubble. The longer she chooses to hold on to them to fuel her fire, the harder it will be for her to live her life the way God wants us to (and that applies to all of us too).

In terms of moving on: I've turned my negatives around and ramped up my positives, so instead of holding on to something that may or may not happen again, I have to start entertaining the thought that there needs to be woman/wife/mother in my and our son's life. Now, if God intends for healing/reconciliation with my wife after bifurcation (if I'm still on the market), then awesome and praise be.

Well, I will keep updating my thread. Cheers to y'all and have a great weekend!


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alamo76, I like the mood of your post. Congrats on your job success. I also like your indifference towards W. Who knows what will happen - you sound as if you are fine either way. All the best.

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Six days to go till the court hearing, bringing to pass a very big and serious life change. I pray that this decision I'm taking continues to be God-led (though IMHO, not necessarily God-intended), because it's all too easy at this time for Satan to take hold. Please keep us all in your prayers.


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One more day to the sad, official end of what was once a good thing...


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I hate to hear that. We have our papers pending as well, so I have no idea how much longer I have.


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Stay strong Alamo!


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Thanks Grateful and Jon.

And just like that, by a stroke of a pen, I am now (in legal eyes) single. I've been living like one for the past 2.5 years anyway, but the emotions and feelings don't hit you until you're faced with crossing the road. Nevertheless, God is still in control, so who knows what His plans for us are. Once again, thanks all y'all for your prayers, support and words of encouragement.


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Thinking of you alamo76. ((((( )))))


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((((((((((((((((((((((alamo))))))))))))))))))


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DP:8 M:3 T:10
"W not happy" 7/11
D final: 8/13
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