Out of curiosity, does your X acknowledge your bday? So strange that he's reminded you twice about his coming up .
Does he do this every year? Do you plan on personally acknowledging his bday in any way?
Maybe I'm off base here, but it seems like as you're moving farther away from him (not where he left you. Congrats on new guy)the more he's trying to draw you back in...
Seeking, That is how I view what is happening. He told me he will be dropping off the kids sat. I will see him then. Not sure how I feel about all this. I certainly don't trust him at all. Last year on his birthday I sent him a card. This year I did not. My birthday was in march. He did not acknowledge it one bit.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, Mlcers tend to forget that what goes around, comes around. If he didn't acknowledge your special day, then don't worry about his. He's really acting like a kid about that, isn't he?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
This is interesting. X has never acknowledged my birthday, Xmas, or Mother's Day since he moved out. Not even just saying something, not helping D pick a present, not a card. Nothing. I gave him a card when he was in the hospital, fully aware that I would not expect something like that from him, had the situation been reversed. I have also had D give him father's day cards and birthday presents and cards.
I've had D make things but not for him, for her. She needs to learn how to give. So that is the extent to which I acknowledge his birthday.
Exchanging birthday gifts and greetings are what friends do. I mean, if you want to go out on a limb and give him a gift, do so. But you'd be wise to have no expectations--certainly not of any reciprocity or even acknowledgement.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Let him stomp around and hold his breath. When he finally discovers that you are not having it, he'll stop it. Don't allow this man to take up any more free space in your head. Time to enjoy yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Texting from ex continues, just random make an excuse to text you texts. He is a little bit more nicer and accomodating than usual. He has never communicated with me as much since bomb drop. He does not go past 3-4 days without making contact now.
Met new guy's parents over the 4th of July. He has a wonderful Christian family with good strong morals and values. New guy has been very attentive and continously makes comments about how lucky he is to have found me. Life is weird.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
TRUSTING I'm so happy that you are movingon and met someone while doing it to that is the added bonus meeting another healthy soul on your own journey.
