Thanks for all the thoughts everyone, I will be updating more regularly as I go through the final phases of this chapter of my journey. I'm really hoping this won't turn ugly with my W - the only sticking point is alimony, she verbally agreed to an amount and duration, her L and family have persuaded her she can get more.
I could give in to her demands - but at the end of the day, I wouldn't be true to myself and the life I want to build post D.
M47 W45 D10 (Has CP) D7 M12 T14 ILYBINILWY 5/1/11 Asked for seperation 5/10/11 Seriously DBing 7/1/11 W admitted to 2 EA's on 11/3/11. Evidence of PA 11/5/11 - Definite evidence of PA 11/20/11 D - Final 7/11/12
it's very important for newbies to know that even if there is no reconciliation (and who says there won't be later on? I do have 2 family members who divorced and then re-married their exes a few years later. Yes, it happens.)
but regardless, newbies particularly need to know that even without their WASs return, life does go on. And it can be happy and fulfilling, or not... it's up to US to be happy. It always has been.
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Really glad you posted buddy. As you can see, a lot of folks are thinking about you even when you're not checking in here. I know I check every so often to see how your situation is evolving...not sure why...I guess I saw some similarities in our situations early on. Anyway, you do sound pretty solid right now. When/if things get tough, just know you've got a lot of people sending good vibes your way. Personally, I think your wife is a little delusional about what post-divorce life is going to be like, but it sounds like you've got the right attitude right now and are doing the best with the hand you've been dealt. All the best, man.
H: 41 W: 35 M: 9 years T: 10 years S: 9 D: 7 ILYBINILWY & "I want a divorce": 6/22/2011 Piecing: 10/2011 Still going strong as of 4/2013
Well my wife filed today - It seems appropriate I start a new thread....
Need to gather my thoughts before posting - I knew it was coming so it's no surprise, still it's not very pleasant.
M47 W45 D10 (Has CP) D7 M12 T14 ILYBINILWY 5/1/11 Asked for seperation 5/10/11 Seriously DBing 7/1/11 W admitted to 2 EA's on 11/3/11. Evidence of PA 11/5/11 - Definite evidence of PA 11/20/11 D - Final 7/11/12
